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Who Is Running For President In 2020?

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With many candidates criss-crossing the country and new ones coming into the race, the 2020 presidential election is well underway — and the Democratic field of candidates is getting crowded.

There are more women in the race than ever before, which is both exciting to watch and inevitably means there will be sexist coverage of the presidential hopefuls.

All candidates are eager to beat a historically unpopular president — who reportedly raised $105 million for his reelection campaign in the second quarter of 2019. Ahead, a list of the current Democratic contenders. We're also tracking who has dropped out of the race.

We will update this story as more information becomes available.

Sen. Michael Bennet

The Colorado senator announced his run on May 2, 2019. Bennet is known as a pragmatist who "reaches across the aisle" — and for the "occasional impassioned outburst on the Senate floor," according to Vox.

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Joe Biden

Former Vice President Joe Biden entered the race on April 25, 2019, after a long period of speculation that he will be running. Biden, who was first elected to the Senate in 1972 and served as President Barack Obama's second-in-command for eight years, has ran for president twice before. His long record of public service has been extensively scrutinized, and now that he has officially launched his campaign, more questions are likely to come.

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Gov. Steve Bullock

The governor of Montana entered the race on May 14, 2019, touting his ability to work across party lines.

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Pete Buttigieg

The mayor of South Bend, IN, Buttigieg is a military veteran and would become the first openly gay president in American history.

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Sen. Cory Booker

The Senator from New Jersey is the least surprising of all the candidates. He rolled out his campaign on February 1 with a message of unity. He's struck a conciliatory, "love-heavy " tone on the campaign trail.

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Julián Castro

The former San Antonio mayor and Housing and Urban Development secretary is the grandson of immigrants and has made strong statements against Trump's border wall.

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Bill de Blasio

Bill de Blasio is the mayor of New York City. A recent poll found that 76% of New Yorkers don't think he should run for president.

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John Delaney

Delaney is a former U.S. Representative from Maryland and finance exec who has already been unofficially "running " for years. However, only 1% of Iowa Democrats consider him their first choice.

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Rep. Tulsi Gabbard

Hawaii Rep. Gabbard is a Bernie backer who has received scrutiny for being friendly with Syrian dictator Bashar al-Assad and anti-LGBTQ+ comments (which she has since walked back). She has made foreign policy a big part of her campaign, standing up against "regime-change wars."

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Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand

New York Sen. Gillibrand officially announced her candidacy on March 17. While she used to be a centrist politician, in recent years she has been a strong proponent of Medicare for All and universal paid family leave. In the Senate, she has made fighting sexual harassment a priority, and together with Sen. Harris, she introduced a bill attempting to combat the U.S.' shockingly high maternal mortality rate.

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Mike Gravel

A former Alaska senator, Mike Gravel tossed his hat in the ring on March 20. Gravel previously ran for president in 2008 and has not been a senator since 1981. He was encouraged to run by a New York teenager.

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Gov. John Hickenlooper

The Colorado governor announced his run on March 4. The former mayor of Denver, he considers Colorado's near universal health insurance coverage one of his major accomplishments.

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Sen. Kamala Harris

The former California attorney general has been criticized for her record as a prosecutor, but has embraced progressive programs such as Medicare for All and evolved her views on legalizing marijuana. She's a great example of the unprecedented diversity on the Democratic roster, with more women and people of color running than ever before.

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Gov. Jay Inslee

The Washington governor announced his presidential bid on March 1. He plans to make the fight against climate change a central part of his campaign platform.

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Sen. Amy Klobuchar

Often called the Senate's pragmatist, the moderate Minnesota senator is known for her record number of bipartisan bills. Responding to recent reports that she's mistreated her staff, she said, "I can be tough."

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Wayne Messam

The mayor of Miramar, FL, is running on the idea that the American Dream is becoming more difficult to achieve for many. The 44-year-old launched his candidacy in late March.

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Rep. Seth Moulton

Moulton is a U.S. Representative from Massachusetts and a Marine Corps veteran. Now 40, he would be the youngest U.S. president in history.

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Beto O'Rourke

O'Rourke, a three-term U.S. Representative from Texas, rose to stardom when he came closer than anyone expected to defeating Sen. Ted Cruz in the 2018 midterm election. He has promised to challenge President Trump on immigration and border security.

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Rep. Tim Ryan

The Ohio Democrat is best known for leading the challenge against Nancy Pelosi’s leadership of the House minority after the 2016 election. He's pro-labor and, at 45, one of the youngest candidates in the race.

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Sen. Bernie Sanders

The Democratic socialist from Vermont has stayed true to his message of fixing economic inequality, but has also promised to run a more inclusive campaign.

Joe Sestak

The former Pennsylvania congressman and retired three-star admiral announced his presidential bid on June 23, 2019. In his announcement video, Sestak said he is joining the race later than other presidential hopefuls because his daughter Alex was undergoing treatment for brain cancer.

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Tom Steyer

Steyer is a billionaire who had said he is ruling out a run in January 2019, but entered the race in July 2019. In recent years, he has been a major bankroller in Democratic politics, spending over $100 million on the 2018 House races and leading a campaign to impeach Donald Trump. He has reportedly pledged to spend $100 million on his bid.

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Sen. Elizabeth Warren

One of the most recognized faces in the field, the Massachusetts senator is looking to challenge Trump on trade and has proposed an "ultra-millionaire tax." She has made universal child care one of her campaign's priorities.

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Marianne Williamson

Williamson is a world-famous spiritual leader and author — and Oprah's spiritual adviser. One of her key policies is to establish a "Department of Peace."

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Andrew Yang

Yang is an entrepreneur and former Obama administration official whose platform includes a guaranteed "universal basic income" of $1,000 a month for all Americans over the age of 18.

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Rep. Eric Swalwell: Dropped Out, July 8, 2019

At 38, Swalwell, a U.S. Representative from California, was one of the youngest people to enter the race. He has founded Future Forum, a group of Democratic House members focusing on millennial concerns. Swalwell suspended his campaign on July 8, 2019, choosing instead to run for re-election in his district.

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A Week In Portland, OR, On A $66,435 Salary

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Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.

This week: an account manager working in sportswear who makes $66,435 per year and spends some of it on Sapporo beer this week.

Occupation: Account Manager
Industry: Sportswear
Age: 29
Location: Portland, OR
Salary: $66,435
Paycheck Amount (2x/month): $1,788.39 (post-tax)
Gender Identity: Woman

Monthly Expenses
Rent: $1,050 (I live alone in a one-bedroom apartment)
401(k): $420.52 (or $210.26 per paycheck — I contribute 15%, 7% of which is pre-tax, and my employer matches an additional 4%.)
Medical, Dental & Vision: $36.16
Disability Coverage: $30.10
Life Insurance: $0 (covered by my employer)
Pet Insurance: $39.55
Medication for Dog: $58.25
Car Payment: $185.04
Car Insurance: $200.70
Phone: $127.08
Internet: $52.99
Gas/Electric: Varies, but typically $30-50 in the summer and $50-85 in the winter (it was $31.09 this month)
Water/Trash/Sewer: $0 (covered by my landlord)
Student Loans: $250
Yoga Studio Membership: $89 (unlimited classes)
Spotify Premium: $9.99
Netflix: $0 (I use my boyfriend's)
Hulu: $7.99 (my brother and a few friends use mine)
HBO GO: $0 (I use my brother's)
Amazon Prime: $12.99
Savings: Varies (I try to transfer at least $100 from my first monthly paycheck into savings, and always transfer $200-$300 from my second monthly paycheck into savings.)

Day One

6:30 a.m. — My alarm goes off and I'm not having it! I didn't sleep well last night, which makes it hard to wake up. I brew some coffee and get back into bed so I can snuggle my dog and scroll through Instagram and Twitter. Then I shower, do my morning skin-care routine (wash face, toner, moisturizer, sunscreen, lip mask, mascara, brows), and am out the door for work.

9 a.m. — Work is surprisingly slow today, which is a nice change of pace. For the past year and a half, I've been an account manager at a sportswear brand, working on things related to basketball, and there's never a dull moment. I have an apple while I scroll through my emails and see that four out of five of my meetings today got canceled! A Monday miracle. I guess everyone, including me, is ready for the four-day Fourth of July weekend.

12 p.m. — I'm getting poke at SeaSweets Poke for a goodbye lunch with one of my coworkers, who is leaving the company in two days. I planned to treat him, but he insists on paying for his own. We talk about the projects he's wrapping up and what his plans are for the future. He's a good guy, and I'll miss working with him. $13.35

3 p.m. — Surprisingly, I've pretty much wrapped up everything for the day! I let my team and my client know I'll be working from home for the rest of the day. I head out, happy to beat the traffic. My boyfriend, N., texts to remind me about our dinner plans with friends tonight, which is helpful because I forgot! Once home, I let my dog out and wrap up a few loose ends with work before shutting my computer for the rest of the night.

6 p.m. — Tonight is my first chiropractic appointment. I've been experiencing a ton of lower-back pain lately that seems to have gotten worse over the past two months. The chiropractor is amazing. He spends about 45 minutes talking to me about my symptoms, taking X-rays, and thoroughly explaining what they reveal: minor scoliosis. Hooray? Then he does a few adjustments, which are BLISS. I reveal to him that sometimes I watch chiropractic videos on YouTube to help soothe myself to sleep. He nods and looks at me with horror in his eyes. We're going to be great friends. I pay my copay, set up another appointment for Wednesday per my treatment plan, and leave feeling better than I have in weeks. $25

7:30 p.m. — I meet N. at our friends' place. They're cooking and we are supplying the beverages, which N. picked up from the wine shop next to his apartment: a cute bottle of rosé and a six-pack of HUB Hazy IPA. Our friends made veggie fajitas, and we spend the rest of the night snacking, talking, and laughing.

11 p.m. — I'm spent and getting “we love you, but please leave” vibes from our friends, so N. and I take off. We head home separately. I play with my dog for a bit and do both our nightly routines: medicine in a cheese cube for her (she has epilepsy and needs medication twice a day), and my nightly routine — washing face, eye cream, moisturizer, and brushing teeth. Good night!

Daily Total: $38.35

Day Two

6:30 a.m. — NOPE!

7:45 a.m. — I get up, make coffee, and rinse off in the shower. I'm starving, so I make breakfast tacos with black beans, roasted sweet potato, eggs, and a cabbage slaw tossed with feta and the green goddess dressing from Trader Joe's, topped with a bucket of hot sauce. Yum.

8:30 a.m. — I check a few emails and remind my coworkers that I won't be in until noon, due to a vet appointment this morning. Last week, one of my dog's paws started to swell and pus. I took her to the vet, and they thought she was likely impaled by a foxtail seed but didn't want to operate if it wasn't necessary. We were sent home with antibiotics and told to come back in a week for a recheck to determine if surgery was necessary. No idea what to expect, but I hope my sweet girl doesn't need to have the surgery.

10 a.m. — Narrator: She has to have surgery. The vet takes me through an estimated range of costs, and I give her a kiss on her nose while I fight back a few tears. She's my best friend. She is a labradoodle and was born blind. I got her on New Year's Day a few years back, because the breeder was going to put her down on January 2 if no one adopted her. I love her so much and can't imagine life without her. I let my coworkers know I'll be working from home today. N. texts to see how the appointment went, and I give him the bad news. We have tickets to see Midsommar tonight with friends, but I tell him I'll need to cancel, but I want him to still go. He says he'll see it again with me another time.

5:30 p.m. — My dog is out of surgery! The vet found a one-inch foxtail seed embedded between her paw pads, but surgery went well. I crack up the moment I see her. One eye is closed, her tongue is slightly sticking out, and she is moving SLOW, but her tail is wagging a mile a minute. I guess they gave her the good meds! I pay the bill and calmly remind myself that I will be reimbursed nearly 80% of the cost within the next two weeks, thanks to pet insurance. PSA: If you have a pet or are thinking about getting a pet, get pet insurance NOW. $571.70

6 p.m. — Once home, I have half of a leftover Mediterranean salad kit from Trader Joe's, a cherry bubbly, and get out my laptop to start researching vacation destinations for a girls' trip in 2020. I have a group of eight friends who are more like sisters than friends, and we've known each other for nearly 20 years. We're all turning 30 next year, so we thought it'd be fun to do a combined celebration getaway. We all live in different states, so we only see each other once or twice a year. I suggest Banff National Park, but it sounds like the vibe is more “lay on the beach and eat and drink as many calories as possible,” so I start looking into resorts in Mexico. I half-watch Friends in the background and find a few potential options.

11 p.m. — I do the nightly routines for both my dog and me, and lift her onto my bed so we can sleep together. She sleeps in my bed every night except for when N. stays over, because the bed is not big enough for two adults and a 60-pound dog!

Daily Total: $571.70

Day Three

7 a.m. — My alarm goes off and I feel horrible! I tossed and turned all night, so coffee is my only cure at this point. I lift the dog off the bed and put her down on the floor so we can do our morning routines. She's walking totally normally and doesn't seem to be groggy anymore! I brew the coffee, heat up leftover black beans, throw together another green goddess slaw, and scramble two eggs for breakfast tacos.

8 a.m. — Today should be a light day — I only have two calls and my client is getting back from two weeks on PTO, so he'll just be spending the day catching up. Not a bad last day for a three-day week! My team Slacks me to check in on the pup and says to work from home to keep an eye on her. I'm so lucky to work with these people.

2:30 p.m. — I snack on snap peas and garlic hummus and then hop in the shower before my chiropractor appointment. My face is feeling a bit rough, so I put on a pumpkin exfoliating mask I got last week after getting a facial, which was my first facial ever and was a birthday gift from my parents. The mask smells just like pumpkin pie and makes me glow after I wash it off!

3:30 p.m. — My appointment was a lot faster today! The tech loosens me up with a quick 10-minute massage, and then my new best friend, the chiropractor, does a quick adjustment. I pay my copay and book my next appointment for Monday. $20

4:30 p.m. — I get a call from the auto-body shop my car is at — it's ready to be picked up! I was side-swiped a few weeks ago, so they had to fix my broken mirror and both side doors on the passenger's side. Because of the surgery, my checking account is low. I make a transfer from savings to checking and pay my deductible. $500

5 p.m. — I do a quick clean-up of my apartment — sweep, vacuum, dishes, and wipe down the bathroom. N. comes over so we can spend some time together before we head to my coworker's house for a summer BBQ in honor of my coworker's last day. He helps me take the bandage off my dog's paw, cleans the wound, and we put her cone on. The cone makes me so sad!

7 p.m. — We head to the BBQ, which is super fun! My coworker is grilling and smoking chicken thighs, ham, vegan sausages, and veggies. There are chips, dips, charcuterie, s'mores, beer, and wine — all of which was provided by work! It's amazing. I'm having such a great time spending time with my coworkers outside of a work setting. I realize I haven't seen N. for about an hour since we ate, but he's become fast friends with a coworker's husband. He comes and finds me later and says he's going to a friend's birthday gathering at a bar. I'm having a great time with my friends, so I decide to stay at the BBQ and tell him to Lyft to my place later. We're both really independent people, and I love that we do our own things but also prioritize time spent together.

11 p.m. — The BBQ is dying down, but a few of us aren't ready to end the night, so we decide to head to Victoria Bar for a nightcap. I get a seasonal cocktail with mezcal, and we sit on the patio, gossiping about a guy we work with who was just dating THREE of our coworkers at once, and none of them knew. John Tucker Must Die references are being shot left and right. I take a Lyft ($10.49) home after closing my tab ($13). $23.49

12 a.m. — I do my nightly routine while waiting for N. He's a social smoker when he drinks, and he reeks when he gets to my apartment. I tell him he can only stay over if he takes a shower, but he doesn't want to. After a minute of playful arguing, we compromise and he takes a shower.

Daily Total: $543.49

Day Four

8 a.m. — I wake up to a wet nose rubbing on my face. I throw on some clothes and let the dog outside. Back into bed for me!

10 a.m. — I make some coffee and get back into bed with N. We talk about our nights and how he wants to quit smoking. He knows I don't like that he smokes, but I'd never force him to quit. That's a choice he needs to make for himself.

11:30 a.m. — N. drives me to my coworker's house so I can get my car from the night before. I eat an apple and have some coffee while I head to meet a group of friends for some stand-up paddle boarding on the Willamette! Recently, I've gained some weight and have been feeling a bit self-conscious, but I decide to wear a bikini and not give a fuck if my stomach is fuller than normal. It feels great, actually. We're out on the river for two hours and pull over to a little island to enjoy a beer. Portland summers are sublime. $32

3 p.m. — We return our rentals, and I head back to Portland for N.'s friend's Fourth of July BBQ. N.'s friend's friends are so nice and have welcomed me in like we've known each other for a long time. I make myself a plate, grab a seltzer and a beer, and play yard Yahtzee with friends. Before I know it, five hours have gone by and I'm exhausted and ready to go home. N. decides to stay and says he'll Uber to my place later.

10 p.m. — My neighbors are setting off an hour-long fireworks display in our parking lot! My dog is one of the rare dogs who doesn't care about fireworks. I give her a chew bone to enjoy, just in case. I turn on some Friends while I wait for N., but he texts to let me know he's exhausted and is going back to his place. We say good night, and I fall asleep .03 seconds later on the couch, where I wake up a few hours later and drag myself to bed.

Daily Total: $32

Day Five

9 a.m. — It's a lazy morning. I get up and go outside with the dog, make coffee, and snack on hummus and pita chips for breakfast since I'm feeling not super hungry. We settle in on the couch and watch an episode of the new season of Stranger Things. It's pretty good!

12 p.m. — My friend B. asks if N. and I want to see Midsommar tonight. We say yes and she buys tickets for us three, N.'s roommate, and one of our other friends. I Venmo her the cost of the ticket. $10

1 p.m. — I decide to start a new book, so I grab one from my bookshelf that I haven't read before. I have three e-books on loan from the library, but I accidentally left my Kindle in the seat pocket on an airplane after a trip back home to Michigan two weeks ago. The good news is that Delta found it, and it's currently being shipped back to me. For now, I've cracked open The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid and am immediately hooked!

6 p.m. — I meet B. and our friend at Sushi Chiyo so we can have a few plates before the movie. I have a Sapporo, seared salmon, spicy salmon, dragon roll, and eel avocado roll. $19.50

7:30 p.m. — We walk across the street to Hollywood Theater and immediately get in line for snacks because I have two stomachs: meal stomach and snack stomach. I decide on an IPA and medium popcorn. The guys are holding down our seats, so I also grab their beers and a slice of pizza for N. My friend Venmos me $4 for the beer, and N.'s roommate gives me $5 cash. Let's get spooky! $24

10 p.m. — Not really sure how I feel about the movie. Seems like everyone has been saying it was horrifying. It was disturbing, yes, but I was never scared during it. (Am I okay????) It was beautifully shot, but Hereditary was more my thing. We walk down the street to Wedge Head, a pinball arcade that just opened. I cash in $5 for quarters and order myself a boozy slush. No idea what's in it, but it tastes like a watermelon Jolly Rancher and I'm here for it. The Addams Family pinball machine was my favorite, but the hardest. I close out my tab and order a soda water with bitters for some hydration. We sit around for 45 minutes talking about movies and then call it a night and head our separate ways. $12

12:30 a.m. — Nightly routines for the pup and me, plus an exfoliating face mask for me. N. and I have plans to hike tomorrow morning, and I'm picking the trail, so I do some research while the mask sits on my face. Rinse after 20 minutes, and then it's lights out.

Daily Total: $65.50

Day Six

7:55 a.m. — My alarm goes off and I text N., “Let me know when you leave” so I can stay in bed until the last possible second.

8:30 a.m. — N. is on his way, so I force myself out of my warm, comfy bed. I brew coffee and get started on some breakfast tacos. I'm so excited to get on the trail, but am feeling sad and guilty about not being able to bring my dog. I take her everywhere with me, so her surgery recovery is hitting hard. The vet gave strict orders for limited physical activity.

9:30 a.m. — We're finally out the door after I tell my dog that I love her 18 times and that I hope she's not mad at me. We take N.'s car and head toward Beacon Rock State Park in Washington.

1:30 p.m. — My legs are tired! The trail was 5.1 miles round trip, and there were a lot of steep uphill parts. Unfortunately, we only made it about 3.5 miles. Around a mile from the summit, N. told me he was struggling and asked if we could turn around. I was, to be honest, disappointed, but we turned around. On the way down, he said he wants to start going to yoga with me, which makes me really happy.

2:30 p.m. — On the way home, we stop at Sugarpine Drive-In for lunch! This is our first time going, and it is SO good. N. and I order separately, and I get the cauliflower sandwich with chips and a pickle, a Buoy IPA, and a soft-serve twist ice cream in a waffle cone with toasted coconut on top. Oh, my God...it is heaven. $19.50

4 p.m. — N. drops me off and heads home to do some chores. We make plans to get together later to watch a movie at his place. I take the dog out to our yard and we play fetch...with a pine cone she becomes obsessed with. We head inside, I turn on Friends for background noise, and we instantly fall asleep on the couch together.

6 p.m. — I wake up and am SO dehydrated. I chug a few glasses of water and then do the dishes. I head outside again so I can clean up the yard and dead-head my plants. I text N. to see when we should do a movie, and a half hour later he responds to let me know he just woke up from a nap. We decide to cancel, because once again I'm comfy on the couch. Instead, we make plans to make dinner together and watch a movie tomorrow.

9 p.m. — I start to get hungry, so I snack on Juanita's chips and salsa verde from Trader Joe's while, you guessed it, watching more Friends! Before I know it, half the bag is gone.

12 a.m. — I've dozed off and am woken up by my dog, who is dropping her bone over and over and over again on the wood floor. I let her outside, do her nightly routine, skip mine because I'm half asleep (I will regret not washing my face, I know!), and crawl into bed with her.

Daily Total: $19.50

Day Seven

7:30 a.m. — Good morning! I throw on some clothes, do my typical routine, and brew some coffee. I settle into the couch with my book and read for a few hours with my dog draped across my legs and lap, because she's convinced she's six pounds, not 60.

10 a.m. — I make chilaquiles for breakfast and finish off the coffee. I read a bit more and get distracted when N. texts me about the USWNT winning the World Cup! I completely forgot today was Sunday and am so happy for the team! Now, how about some equal pay?

12 p.m. — I was just starting to feel lazy when I thought, “What would Megan Rapinoe do?” So I throw on my sports bra and leggings and haul my ass to hot yoga. I'm still feeling a little self-conscious about my weight gain, but wearing just a bra and pants to class is liberating.

1:30 p.m. — Class is insanely hard. This class is more like yoga and boot camp/HIIT combined, but in a 96-degree room. I am drenched and leave with shaky but strong legs. I go home, immediately peel off my clothes, and jump in the shower. Then I chug some water, do my skin-care routine with extra TLC to make up for last night's skipped routine, and have half a Southwestern salad kit from Trader Joe's for lunch. I scroll through Instagram and Twitter a bit and snuggle my dog on the couch.

4:30 p.m. — I'm still starving, so I have a few pita chips with garlic hummus and an apple. I decide to go get a manicure before heading to N.'s for dinner. The one I currently have is three weeks old, and I picked off all the gel polish on two nails during Midsommar this week, so...I'm due. When I get to the nail salon, they tell me they're closing soon and to come back tomorrow. I've never been turned away as a walk-in, and they don't close for another hour...but okay! Guess it wasn't meant to be, so I head over to N.'s an hour early.

6 p.m. — N. and I decide to make pasta. He has penne and a jar of arrabiata at home, so we head out to buy broccolini, peppers, zucchini, an onion, freshly minced garlic, and shaved Parmesan cheese. N. pays. When we get back to his place, he chops the onion, because I turn into the GIF of Kim Kardashian crying the second an onion is cut within three feet of me. I chop the rest of the veggies to add to the noodles and sauce. N. also makes a few pieces of garlic bread...I love him.

8 p.m. — After dinner, we lie in bed and watch A Scanner Darkly, which was his pick, but I agreed because Keanu Reeves, Winona Ryder, and Woody Harrelson make for a killer cast. It has a good plot, but isn't really my kind of movie. Then we look up yoga classes at my studio and book one for Tuesday night. I really hope he likes it!

10 p.m. — Home! I let the dog outside, do both our nightly routines, and then we play tug-of-war and fetch with one of her favorite toys: a plush pineapple. Once she's worn out, we get in bed and I read another chapter in my book before drifting off. Back to work tomorrow!

Daily Total: $0

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From Clinton To Trump: The Powerful Men In Jeffrey Epstein's Orbit

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Financier Jeffrey Epstein, who was arraigned on sex-trafficking charges on Monday, saw himself as a collector of famous friends. "I invest in people — be it politics or science," he told New York magazine in 2002. "It's what I do."

But it's not all he did. Now that Epstein is facing up to 45 years in prison ("basically a life sentence," according to prosecutors) for allegedly abusing dozens of underage girls as part of his sex-trafficking operation, there's renewed interest in the people he surrounded himself with. This is especially because when he faced similar charges more than a decade ago, he struck up a shockingly lenient plea deal that promised immunity for his "co-conspirators."

Epstein's indictment describes how the 66-year-old, who pleaded not guilty, ran what's been called a "sexual pyramid scheme," through which he ensnared the girls he allegedly abused to bring in more girls, at his residences in New York City and Palm Beach, FL, between 2002 and 2005. British socialite Ghislaine Maxwell allegedly helped him, luring girls under the guise that they would obtain modeling and educational opportunities.

The billionaire investor had connections to some of the most powerful people in the world, including former President Bill Clinton and President Donald Trump. His "little black book," which Gawker obtained and published in 2015, was full of contacts for politicians, celebrities, and wealthy people.

Ahead, the powerful men who have been linked to Epstein.

Former President Bill Clinton

In the early 2000s, Epstein flew former President Bill Clinton, actor Kevin Spacey, and comedian Chris Tucker to Africa so they could participate in a tour of prevention and treatment centers for AIDS. Epstein was reportedly a supporter of the Clinton Foundation.

Flight logs obtained by Gawker in 2015 show that Clinton, who has been accused of sexual assault, flew in Epstein's private plane at least 11 times in the mid-2000s. In a statement, Clinton's press secretary Angel Ureña said that Clinton had only taken four flights on Epstein's plane.

"President Clinton knows nothing about the terrible crimes Jeffrey Epstein pleaded guilty to in Florida some years ago, or those with which he has been recently charged in New York," he said. Ureña added: "He's not spoken to Epstein in well over a decade, and has never been to [Epstein's private island] Little St. James Island, Epstein's ranch in New Mexico, or his residence in Florida."

President Donald Trump

Epstein used to frequent President Donald Trump's Palm Beach property, Mar-a-Lago, and the real estate magnate spoke highly of him. "I’ve known Jeff for 15 years. Terrific guy," Trump, who has been accused of sexual assault and misconduct by at least 21 women, told New York magazine in 2002. "He’s a lot of fun to be with. It is even said that he likes beautiful women as much as I do, and many of them are on the younger side. No doubt about it — Jeffrey enjoys his social life."

According to Politico, court filings show Trump flew on Epstein's private plane at least once. The financier also had Trump’s phone numbers in his personal phone directory. The legal team for one of Epstein's accusers has also claimed Epstein was banned from Mar-a-Lago after being accused of sexually assaulting a young girl at the property. Trump has not confirmed this.

“As I have previously explained, he had no relationship with Mr. Epstein and had no knowledge whatsoever of his conduct,” Trump Organization attorney Alan Garten told Politico in 2017. “This has all been reported countless times in the press.” On Tuesday, Trump's senior adviser Kellyanne Conway said the president has not spoken to Epstein in “years and years and years.”

Attorney Alan Dershowitz

Alan Dershowitz, a high-powered attorney and Harvard Law professor, was part of Epstein's legal team in 2007. He was one of the lawyers who helped broker the lenient plea deal that allowed Epstein to avoid federal prison, serve only 13 months in county jail, be granted a work release, and obtain immunity for "any potential co-conspirators" in his crimes. Dershowitz was also named in a civil lawsuit brought forward by one of Epstein's accusers, Virginia Roberts Giuffre. Giuffre claims that Epstein trafficked her to Dershowitz while she was a minor. The Palm Beach Post reported that in 2017, he won the legal fight against her. A second alleged survivor of Epstein's alleged abuse, Sarah Ransome, also claims Epstein forced her to have sex with Dershowitz. The documents related to Dershowitz are currently sealed, according to The Daily Beast.

Dershowitz has denied all the allegations. "The accusation by Virginia Roberts Giuffre is the same one she made, and I conclusively disproved, more than four years ago. I produced all my travel and American Express records, which proved that I could not have been, and was not at the places and times she claims to have had sex with me. The former Director of the FBI carefully reviewed these records as part of a thorough investigation and concluded that 'the totality of the evidence found during the investigation refutes the allegations,'" Dershowitz told The Daily Beast. Of Ransome, he said: "Let me be clear: I never met either of these liars."

Prince Andrew, Duke of York

According to The Guardian, Prince Andrew and Epstein's relationship goes back to the early 1990s. Virginia Roberts Giuffre has claimed that Prince Andrew forced her to have sex with him as well. (See: A court filing obtained by The Guardian.) Buckingham Palace has denied the allegations.

Jeffrey Epstein and Alan DershowitzPhoto: Rick Friedman/Corbis/Getty Images.

U.S. Attorney General William Barr

U.S. Attorney General William Barr served as counsel for the law firm Kirkland & Ellis, which was part of Epstein's legal team in 2007 and helped him obtain his plea deal. Barr is not recusing himself from the current case against Epstein, but he "has been and will remain recused from any retrospective review of the resolution of the earlier case in Florida," according to CNN reporting.

Attorney Kenneth Starr

Kenneth Starr, who investigated President Bill Clinton's relationship with Monica Lewinsky, was also part of Epstein's defense team in 2007 and played a role in securing the infamous plea deal. Dershowitz said in 2015 that Starr was brought on board because he "had experience in investigating sex investigations. He had experience as the solicitor general and as a judge. He had all the bases covered."

Filmmaker Woody Allen

The Daily Beast reported in 2011 that Epstein hosted Woody Allen, who has faced sexual assault allegations himself, and other celebrities for dinner at his New York City townhouse in December 2010, more than a year after Epstein had served 13 months in jail for soliciting underage prostitution.

Physicist Lawrence Krauss

Krauss, a so-called “celebrity scientist,” directed a Harvard University program that was made possible by Epstein's $30 million donation. In 2011, he defended Epstein in a Daily Beast article. “If anything, the unfortunate period he suffered has caused him to really think about what he wants to do with his money and his time, and support knowledge,” Krauss said. “Jeffrey has surrounded himself with beautiful women and young women, but they’re not as young as the ones that were claimed. As a scientist I always judge things on empirical evidence and he always has women ages 19 to 23 around him, but I’ve never seen anything else, so as a scientist, my presumption is that whatever the problems were I would believe him over other people.” Krauss, who taught at Arizona State University, would go on to be accused of sexual misconduct in 2018. The school found the allegations to be truthful, while Krauss still denies the claims.

Refinery29 reached out to Alan Dershowitz and Lawrence Krauss for comment, and we will update this story if we hear back.

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The Balayage Bob Is The Definition Of Trendy Summer Hair

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Long hair is a colorist's bread and butter: A canvas draping down the back of the salon chair on which to paint highlights and lowlights. But what's even more impressive is when they can create the same dimensional effect — using seamless balayage blending — on a fresh, on-trend bob that stops blunt between the shoulders and jawline.

It's entirely possible with precision, says Linda de Zeeuw, a colorist at NYC's Rob Peetoom Salon. She tells us that, similar to coloring long hair, the natural base color of a short cut should remain untouched at the root. "With a bob, the balayage highlights — blonde or warm brown — should be blended carefully with the root tone, otherwise the whole head of hair is going to look single-process," she says. "The balayage technique can be applied to any base color, curl pattern, or cut, minding that the end goal is the same: natural-looking depth and dimension."

Ahead, find photo evidence of how to achieve a seamlessly blended bob, plus pick up tips on what to ask for at your appointment. Now, you have the last push you need to finally get that freeing summer chop, complete with the sun-kissed highlights of your lounge-chair dreams.

According to current Pinterest analytics, mushroom blonde hair color is trending for summer 2019 — and balayage is the perfect vehicle for application. The trendy shade is a perfect blend of dirty blonde, silver, and brunette hues that pros suggest for anyone with naturally dark roots looking to infuse a lighter tone that's still subtle and soft.

L.A. colorist Cherin Choi shows how to perfect the most subtle, piece-y blonde highlights over the front pieces of a swingy, copper-colored A-line bob.

On a dark root, cool blonde balayage gives an edgy vibe to the overall cut. "You can add blonde lift to just the ends, or evenly over the hair shaft," says Choi. "I add the desired thickness of highlight, then tone the roots for a seamless grow-out."

Colorist Shai Amiel shows how a multi-tonal balayage lift doesn't equate to damaged curls — so long as the hair stays hydrated and healthy.

Actress Olivia Holt's hair is colored light blonde, but her colorist, Matt Rez, almost melts the brighter tones into her brunette root instead of covering it.

If you're looking for dimensional color over your shoulder-skimming lob, consider talking to your colorist about infusing Rez's mid-lighting technique to bring a gorgeous shade spectrum from your mid-shaft to your ends.

Colorist George Papanikolas tells us that the heaviest, brightest highlight should be placed at the ends of the hair — in this case, emphasizing the baby-blonde curls that spring around the face.

If you have a brunette bob and are looking for the most natural secondary tone to add over top, de Zeeuw recommends opting for a caramel or gold-tinged highlight.

Celebrity stylist Irinel de León shows how a subtle warm-brown balayage — from mid-length to ends — can give a sleek, wet wave that extra pop.

On the other hand, buttery blonde balayage makes full, soft curls feels extra summery and fresh.

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Amazon has become almost synonymous with shopping. Where else can you purchase a cat-shaped tape dispenser and an 50 pack of Sriracha hot sauce packets in one visit? But there are still a few items we don't quite utilize Amazon enough for, like a vacation-ready TK dress or a gown perfect for a beach wedding. Oh yeah, Amazon is a secret home for style-forward items that you can get regularly through its recently-launched try-before-you-buy program Prime Wardrobe.

With dress season on our minds, we couldn't help but wonder just how many summer dresses we've been missing out on. So we set out to round up the TK picks we're throwing into our Amazon carts. From oversized linen styles to save you on the hottest, stickiest of days, to affordable cocktail frocks and high-rated sundresses — your friends won't believe it when you tell them where you bought your dress.

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Former Fighter Pilot Amy McGrath Is Ready To Take On "Grim Reaper" Mitch McConnell

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Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell has been in office since 1985. For Amy McGrath, it's been long enough.

The Kentucky Democrat announced on Tuesday that she is running for McConnell's seat in the 2020 election. "Everything that’s wrong with Washington had to start someplace," she said in a video announcing her Senate bid.

“Well, it started with this man who was elected a lifetime ago, and who has — bit by bit, year by year — turned Washington into something we all despise, where dysfunction and chaos are political weapons, where budgets and healthcare and the Supreme Court are held hostage,” she said of McConnell, who has been the Republicans' leader in the Senate since 2007.

McGrath, the nation's first female Marine to fly an F-18 fighter jet in combat, rose to prominence after a video announcing her candidacy for U.S. Representative in Kentucky's 6th Congressional District went viral in the summer of 2017. Although she won the district's highly competitive primary, she fell short in her bid to unseat Rep. Andy Barr in the 2018 midterm election.

Beating McConnell looks to be an uphill battle for McGrath: Besides being one of the most high-profile Republicans in the nation, he won his seat in the 2014 midterm election by 16 percentage points. Two years later, President Donald Trump won Kentucky by nearly 30 points. Still, Democrats believe McGrath is up for the challenge and can be competitive. She raised more than $8 million for her House race. And while Barr ended up defeating her, it was only by a 3% margin in a district Trump won by 15 percentage points in 2016.

One of the reasons McGrath was able to nearly beat Barr was because she understood the needs of her district and is running on a more moderate platform than Democrats in other parts of the country. In an interview on MSNBC's Morning Joe on Tuesday, McGrath distanced herself from the positions some 2020 Democratic presidential candidates have taken on issues such as Medicare for All. She said that after watching the first presidential primary debate, she was concerned that the crop of presidential hopefuls might be proposing solutions that are too far to the left.

McGrath recognizes the obstacles ahead, calling McConnell a "formidable" opponent during the interview. But she added that Kentuckians might see through McConnell's obstructive tactics in the Senate. "The things that Kentuckians voted for Trump for are not being done," McGrath said. "He's not able to get it done because of Mitch McConnell."

Democrats, many of whom have long hated McConnell — the self-described "grim reaper " of progressive policies — praised McGrath for throwing her hat into the ring. Both "Go Amy" and #DitchMitch were trending on Twitter on Tuesday. Even some of the presidential candidates joined in: Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand was the first to endorse McGrath. Sen. Elizabeth Warren tweeted, "@AmyMcGrathKY is a real fighter for working families in Kentucky and across the country. She inspired us in 2018, and now she’s running for the U.S. Senate. Go Amy!"

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Serena Williams Shares Her $973 Routine For Glowing Skin

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Serena Williams is many things: a mom, world-champion athlete, businesswoman, and all-around badass inspiration. At the end of that list, she should pen skin-care connoisseur. The tennis champion, who is also the cover star of the August 2019 issue of Harper's Bazaar, opened up about her skin-care routine for the publication's Go To Bed With Me series.

In it, Williams breaks down her quick yet effective bedtime regimen for glowing skin. The athlete's routine is simple (especially when compared to the roughly 100 steps we try to squeeze in before a snooze). To "come undone," as she says, she turns to seven essential products, which include coconut oil cleanser, gold-infused under-eye patches, and a cult-favorite rose water, ringing up to a whopping $973.90.

The tennis champ's routine is pure luxury, to say the least. But when you're arguably the greatest female athlete of all time... what else do you expect? Find everything Williams uses to keep her complexion beaming on (and off) the court, ahead.

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Loving Earth Cold Pressed Coconut Oil

To kick off her nighttime routine, Williams uses this Australian cold-pressed coconut oil to remove her makeup. "I slather it all over my face, on my lips and under my eyes," she says. "I just heard that oil washes are good, but I’ve been doing that for years." Her daughter, Olympia, is also ahead of the double cleansing trend. "My daughter actually does the routine with me. She’s only one-and-a-half, and she loves it."



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Vine Vera Vitamin C Serum

Once her face is rinsed and free of makeup, Williams uses this vitamin C serum, which helps to brighten the skin. "I found this on my baby moon in Mexico and I became insanely obsessed with it. I do a couple dabs and put it on my face," she says.



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Vine Vera Resveratrol Age Defying Eye Serum

Once her base is prepped, Williams concentrates on her eyes. She starts with this serum, which has vitamin C to brighten and energize tired eyes.



Vine Vera Resveratrol Cabernet High-Potency Eye Serum, $350, available at Vine Vera

MZ SKIN Hydra-Bright Golden Eye Treatment Mask

Once her eye serum is applied, Williams follows up with these eye patches. "I hate dark circles around my eyes so I try to get serious about treating my eyes," she says. "I leave these on for a few minutes, then I sit down in my room with Olympia and watch Finding Nemo." While the patches work their magic, she also applies more coconut oil to hydrate her lips.



MZ Skin Hydra-Bright Golden Eye Treatment Mask x 5, $106, available at Net-A-Porter

MZ Skin Collagen Activating Eye Complex

Once her patches are removed, Williams follows up with a hydrating eye cream, which she also uses all over her face. "When I'm traveling I put even put this on my face because whatever you're using on your eyes is moisturizing and can work for the whole face," she explains. "It’s important to make your beauty routine your own."

She also reveals that she uses the brightening eye cream around her mouth, an area where many women of color experience discoloration. "Honestly, I have a bit of a five o' clock shadow, so I put some of this on top of my mustache," she says. "If it’s brightening [my eyes] then it’ll brighten my mustache, too."



MZ Skin Soothe & Smooth Collagen Activating Eye Complex, $149, available at Net-A-Porter

Ayur Medic Enrichment Cream

To hydrate her combination skin, Williams finishes with this cream. "Don't forget the neck," she says. Thanks for the reminder, girl.



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Mario Badescu Facial Spray With Aloe, Herbs and Rosewater

For her final step, Williams sprays this cult-favorite mist all over her skin. "I use this to set my makeup and it gives me a crazy glow, but I also use it at night," she says. "I love rose water, and roses are my favorite flower. I spray it like I'm in France." Wondering what that looks like? Tilt your head back, spray a cloud-full of mist on your skin, and imagine you're on a boat in St. Tropez.



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Ariana Grande Reminds Us That God Is, In Fact, A Woman On The Cover Of Vogue

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Ariana Grande has officially caught Anna Wintour's eye. The "God Is A Woman" singer is on the cover of Vogue for the first time ever. On the cover, Grande traded her signature ponytail for a huge summer hat and poses with her dog, Toulouse. Inside the issue, the 26-year-old opens up about her personal style, which is polarizing to say the least.

“She’s like an R-rated version of a Disney character, super-vivid,” her close friend and frequent collaborator Pharrell Williams tells Vogue. “But she’s full of self-awareness. That meta-cognition is part of her personality.” Indeed Grande knows that the Internet has thoughts about her usual outfit combo of lampshade dresses and over-the-knee-boots, but she says she doesn't care because it works.

She likens it to dressing in character. "I like having my funny character that I play,” she says, “that feels like this exaggerated version of myself. It protects me. But also I love disrupting it for the sake of my fans and making clear that I’m a person—because that’s something I enjoy fighting for. I can’t help disrupt it." She describes herself as "incredibly impulsive and passionate and emotional and just reckless."

What's more, she says, is that her style has taken on a life of its own. "The music is very personal and very real, but yes, if you can be me for Halloween, if drag queens can dress up as me, then I’m a character," she tells Vogue. "Go to your local drag bar, and you’ll see it. That’s, like, the best thing that’s ever happened to me. It’s better than winning a Grammy.”

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I Let A Twitch-Famous Psychic Tell Me How To Date

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Over the past few months, I’ve interviewed a few different tarot readers, tried starting my day with a daily tarot card pull, and bought my own tarot deck (which I am still, very slowly, learning how to use). So when I was invited to get a tarot reading from the Twitch-famous psychic Antphrodite, I was in. What better way to learn more about tarot than to go straight to the pros?

Antphrodite, aka Ant, has been reading tarot since he was a 12-year-old with an interest in the paranormal. In May 2017, his friends talked him into joining Twitch, and within 30 minutes of his first stream he began reading tarot live — someone had spotted his tarot deck on his desk and asked him about it. The next day, he was flooded with requests for readings. “It grew from there, and I single-handedly had to develop a business model for something no one else was doing,” Ant tells Refinery29.

Today, Ant has a Twitch following of over 22,000. A self-proclaimed “sassy psychic,” he combines his psychic abilities with his sense of humor and his love of pop culture. He plays his favorite songs (including lots of K-pop) before readings and regularly uses tarot to predict celebrity drama, such as the James Charles/Tati Westbrook feud. Although some tarot readers believe it’s unethical to read tarot for people who aren’t present, Ant compares it to the way celebrity gossip and entertainment publications cover public figures’ lives. “If you are an influencer or public person, you put yourself out there," he says. “My intention is to help them and be like, ‘Hey, this is something you should watch out for.’”

He has similar words for people who think his advice — which can include telling people to consider ending a relationship — is too harsh. “My style is very straightforward: I don’t like to sugarcoat things,” he says. “If you come to me, I'm trying to help you, and I would be doing a disservice to you if I wasn’t honest."

Ant does a lot of relationship readings, and I didn’t feel like I needed psychic advice about my career at the moment, so I put forth a question about my love life. Here’s what I asked: I’m a sex & relationships writer, and I go on a lot of first dates, but it’s been almost a year since I’ve been on more than two dates with one person. What should I be doing differently when it comes to dating? I emailed Ant my question about an hour before he began his livestream, so when he read my cards, I was watching on Twitch — as were many of his followers.

Ant began by laying out nine cards in three groups of three. The first card was a Queen of Pentacles, which Ant says indicates stability in my career and in my relationships (when I actually get in them, that is). “When it comes to relationships, you know exactly what it takes to maintain a serious, strong relationship, and you’re not going to lose yourself in them,” Ant says. “It also means you’re good at your job.” I’ll take it!

Next up: the Queen of Wands, which represents me (and which Ant said represents him as well). This card means that I’m super-passionate about what I do, Ant says — to the point that it can “burn others out”: “When it comes to connecting with people, you come across a little bit much.” Combined with the Queen of Pentacles, “this energy 1000% is intimidating,” Ant says. While I’m an introvert and don’t think of myself as aggressive, I am passionate about my work and my beliefs — and I’ve lost interest in more than one person when they expressed casual misogyny, such as saying that Beyoncé needs to “cover up more” or, more recently, calling a woman political writer I admire “crazy.”

This interpretation was reinforced by the next card, the Emperor reversed. “I don’t think you have to change too much,” Ant says — which I was glad to hear, because I really don’t want to date someone who has terrible opinions about Beyoncé. Ant says that the cards indicate I get easily frustrated with dates (true) so I should watch out for that, and I should “keep it lighter, longer” instead of going for challenging topics head-on.

The next three cards were the Page of Cups, the Four of Swords, and Ten of Swords — all three reversed. Ant says that these cards indicate that I handle rejection well and have trouble getting attached, so I should be careful about potentially missing subtler romantic gestures; I’m also prone to self-sabotage. The final three cards were the Page reversed and the Knight of Swords upright with the Knight of Cups, which indicates that I have high expectations but tend to be attracted to people who “have potential, rather than somebody who already is.”

Then, Ant did something that I was surprised by: he added a new deck to the mix. This one was an oracle deck, which is less structured and more customizable than a traditional tarot deck. “Oracle decks can be pretty much anything,” Ant explains. “I use oracle decks to get more specific in a section of a reading — if I see an issue or want more explanation, I pull out the oracle deck.” From the oracle deck, he drew two cards: Parasite and Addicted, indicating independence and an aversion to clinginess. “You do need independence, but I think you’re a little too hyper-independent,” Ant says.

Finally, Ant drew another two cards from an astrology deck: Pluto and Libra. Pluto indicates that I want someone who has made a significant change in their lives, and Libra indicates that the person will have some of the traits associated with Libras, such as diplomacy, sweetness, and a “boy- or girl-next-door vibe.” They'll have a passion for equality that might lead them to work in the legal field.

So, to sum it all up: I’m very passionate about my work and my beliefs, and this intensity means that I have a tendency to put up walls when it comes to connecting with a date. I should work on keeping early dates lighter and be open to noticing subtler romantic gestures. My best match will be someone with similar passions — not someone who has potential, but someone who already is, as Ant puts it. “When you pull the Queen of Wands, she knows her self-worth and she isn’t going to accept someone who is less than she deserves,” he says. “You need to find someone who has a very similar passion. It’s not going to work any other way.”

This all rang true for me — especially the part about wanting to find an equal partner. Although I’ve been swiping on various dating apps since my reading a week ago, I haven’t gone on a date since. But now I know a little more about what to look for. And hey, lawyers-next-door: my DMs are open.

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While the accusers in billionaire investor and alleged sex trafficker Jeffrey Epstein 's latest indictment have not been publicly identified, over the years some of them, many of whom are now in their late 20s or 30s, have spoken out about their experiences.

"I was young, I was scared, I knew these people were powerful," Virginia Roberts Giuffre, who was 16 when Epstein's ex-girlfriend Ghislaine Maxwell allegedly recruited and groomed her for sexual slavery, told the Miami Herald in 2018 as part of the newspaper's massive investigation of Epstein's misconduct. "I didn't know what would happen if I said ‘no.’ I didn't know what would happen if I reported them. That 16-year-old girl just let it happen."

Epstein pleaded not guilty to two charges of sex trafficking minors in a Manhattan federal court on Monday. The indictment comes over a decade after the financier reached a suspiciously lenient plea deal with then-Miami U.S. Attorney Alexander Acosta's office after facing similar charges, which a Florida federal judge later ruled was a violation of the survivor’ rights.

Giuffre had been working at Mar-a-Lago when Maxwell recruited her to be a masseuse for Epstein, and claims she was forced to have sex with his prominent associates, including attorney Alan Dershowitz and Prince Andrew, Duke of York. (Dershowitz and Prince Andrew have both denied Giuffre’s allegations.) She said she was sent to Little Saint James, Epstein’s private island in the U.S. Virgin Islands, where she alleges she participated in orgies with older men while underage.

"Before you know it, I'm being lent out to politicians and to academics and...royalty and people that you just, you would never think, 'How did you get into that position of power in the first place?'" Giuffre said.

You beat yourself up mentally and physically. You can't ever stop your thoughts.

Courtney Wild, another survivor, said she met Epstein in 2002 when she was 14 and reportedly still had braces on her teeth. Like he did with many of the accusers, he first asked her to give him a massage in exchange for cash. Wild, who later helped recruit other girls for Epstein, said he liked girls who looked like her — white, very young, slender, and easy to manipulate.

"He told me he wanted them as young as I could find them," Wild told the Miami Herald in 2018. "If I had a girl to bring him at breakfast, lunch, and dinner, then that’s how many times I would go a day. He wanted as many girls as I could get him. It was never enough."

She said he preyed on girls who were homeless or otherwise vulnerable. "He went after girls who he thought no one would listen to and he was right," she said. "As soon as [the original plea deal] was signed, they silenced my voice and the voices of all of Jeffrey Epstein’s other victims. This case is about justice, not just for us, but for other victims who aren’t Olympic stars or Hollywood stars."

Wild later developed a drug addiction and served time in prison on drug charges. "Before she met Epstein, Courtney Wild was captain of the cheerleading squad, first trumpet in the band, and an A-student at Lake Worth Middle School," according to the Miami Herald. "After she met Epstein, she was a stripper, a drug addict, and an inmate at Gadsden Correctional Institution in Florida's Panhandle."

Another woman who alleged Epstein molested her died of a heroin overdose last year, Vox reported.

Other women are still living with the emotional scars of having been abused. "You beat yourself up mentally and physically," Jena-Lisa Jones, who said Epstein abused her when she was 14, told the Miami Herald in 2018. When she was introduced to Epstein, she was reportedly paid $200 to give him a massage. He then told her to take off her clothes and fondled her. "You can't ever stop your thoughts. A word can trigger something. For me, it is the word 'pure' because he called me 'pure' in that room and then I remember what he did to me in that room."

Still, for some of the survivors, there is a sense of relief.

Sarah Ransome claims Epstein sex-trafficked her in 2006 and 2007 and that, like Giuffre, she was also forced to have sex with Epstein’s lawyer, Alan Dershowitz (which he has denied). "The news of my abuser's arrest today is a step in the right direction to finally hold Epstein accountable for his crimes and restore my faith that power and money can't triumph over justice," Ransome told CBS News.

Wild and Michelle Licata, another accuser of Epstein, were in the courtroom on Monday during Epstein's arraignment hearing. Licata told Good Morning America that she cried when she saw the financier appear in court.

"I don't think anyone has been told the truth about what Jeffrey Epstein did," Licata told the Miami Herald in 2018. "He ruined my life and a lot of girls' lives. People need to know what he did and why he wasn't prosecuted, so it never happens again."

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Nicole Kidman Confirms That Every Beauty Look Matters On Big Little Lies

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Nicole Kidman may live in a 111-acre farmhouse in Australia, call Keith Urban her husband (and Tom Cruise her ex), and have four Golden Globe awards under her belt, but she's more relatable than you think. In fact, some of her daily habits might even be called mundane — like being a stickler for wearing sunscreen.

Just like most of us, Kidman has only her mother to thank for her vigilant attitude about wearing sunscreen. "I'm the biggest advocate for it just because of my nature and how I grew up in Australia," the Neutrogena brand ambassador tells Refiner29. "If my mama hadn't put sunscreen on me when I was little, I wouldn't have the skin I have today."

To be clear, Kidman never goes without sunscreen — even when filming, including for her current role as Celeste in Big Little Lies. Considering the fact that a vast majority of her scenes were shot outside, Kidman confirms that she took every sun-safe precaution there is, like wearing a sun hat and reapplying her sunscreen whenever necessary. Her go-to? Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Dry-Touch Sunscreen. "It's a really good sunscreen underneath makeup," she says.

Needless to say, Kidman is something of an authority on taking care of your skin. But ask her about her newest co-star and onscreen mother-in-law Meryl Streep's complexion, and she'll tell you that it's just as good — if not better. "She has the most beautiful skin," she says. "It's so soft." Even so, the co-stars have never really swapped beauty tips (something we think they should rectify soon). "I think she's just naturally blessed," Kidman says. "She's always pretty healthy. She's very disciplined, which is what I think contributes to her overall way of living. I think also the greatest thing is being happy. And Meryl is happy."

Something that we'd bet made Streep happy this year? The fact that the fake teeth she pitched to play Mary Louise on Big Little Lies' season 2 made it into the canon. Streep suggested that the character's teeth should match her late son's, a set of prosthetic teeth were created, and Mary Louise was born. As much as the teeth in question became a topic of social-media buzz, Kidman says they didn't take on quite the same infamy while filming.

PHoto: Courtesy of HBO.

"I didn't notice them," Kidman admits of her scenes with Streep on BLL, adding that she prefers not to focus on the "accoutrements" of the show. "Initially [they] stand out, but I hope the work has been done so it vibrates emotionally. We're only as good as what we bring in terms of our hearts and our souls. Hopefully that bleeds through."

Celeste's physical appearance in season 2, however, bears a certain weight. "When you meet Celeste, she's not as coiffed as she was when Perry was alive [in season 1]. There's a reason," Kidman says. Turns out, the actress — who's also an executive producer on the show — seriously considered changing her character's hair for the follow-up season in dramatic fashion. She imagined that the trauma of losing her husband and their physically abusive relationship would manifest itself in Celeste's look, but Kidman eventually ditched the idea after realizing that Celeste just wasn't emotionally ready.

Celeste may not have gotten a bob for season 2, but Kidman agrees that any seemingly minor tweaks you catch on the show are intentional, like Jane's (Shailene Woodley) new bangs. "We're trying to give these women enormous complexities and depth because that is the truth of our lives — what we're going through, how we're going through it, and how we're presenting ourselves to the world, whether that's through haircuts or what type of makeup we're using," she explains. "There's always an emotional reason behind that."

But Kidman herself doesn't put too much thought into vanity — on or offscreen. Well, except when it comes to avoiding retinol (it dries out her skin) and brown lipstick ("Reese [Witherspoon] and I do not like brown lipstick. We don't think it's flattering for our skin tones," she says) like it's a criminal inquiry into the Monterey Five. Like we said: totally relatable.

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Update: Blonde Camila Cabello made her official debut with the release of the"Find U Again" music video. Yesterday, the "Havana" singer teased the hair transformation on Instagram, posting a photo in a platinum, shoulder-length wig that's drastically different from her signature long, dark strands.

The video has a storyline that involves bounty hunters, Club Heartbreak, and sultry dancing, so Cabello wanted a new look. "We decided to do blonde hair because she wanted to play a different character than herself," Dimitri Giannetos, who has worked with the pop star for five years, tells Refinery29. "The blonde look was something completely different." The two tried out a few different hairstyles before landing on the icy-blonde wig, which complemented her skin tone the best. In the video, the wig eventually comes flies off, and Cabello returns to her signature hair. Well, it was fun while it lasted.

This story was originally published on July 8, 2019.

If there's one feature of Camila Cabello that's easily identifiable — besides her standout vocal talent, of course — it's her signature hair. Since her days in Fifth Harmony, the singer has always rocked long, dark brown hair and curtain bangs, only switching it up with an updo every now and then. However, it seems like Cabello is making some big changes in her life, including her go-to look.

Within days of being spotted holding hands with Shawn Mendes, further fueling the romance rumors that have been swirling around the longtime friends, the "Havana" singer shook the internet by teasing a new music video in which she is rocking shoulder-length, bleach-blonde hair with black roots.

The pop star shared a photo from the video set of "Find U Again," her track with producer Mark Ronson, on Instagram. "What should her name be? find you again vid is out tomorrow," she wrote underneath the photo, referencing what is likely a wig. Fans didn't shy away from giving their name suggestions, which included Karla, Cindy, and Daisy.

The transformation was brought to life by L.A.-based celebrity hairstylist Dimitri Giannetos, who also shared behind-the-scenes photos of the wet hairstyle. "Who’s ready for camilas [sic] new look," he asked his Instagram followers.

While we're pretty sure that this hair change is thanks to a wig — especially since recent photos of Cabello feature her signature dark hair — this is definitely surprising to see from the singer. If she ever decides to go for the look full time, her fans are definitely here for it. "Dear Camila Cabello, please go blonde sincerely a Camilizer," wrote one fan on Twitter, while another tweeted, "Camila blonde is a big yes for me."

Now that we know dramatic hair changes aren't entirely out of the question for the singer, who knows what will come next. She did just get out of a relationship, which is the perfect time to go for an updated cut or color, according to Hollywood history. But even if this look is only temporary, we're excited to see the persona that Cabello takes on as a blonde in her new music video. By the looks of the video teaser, it seems like she's living out the notion that blondes have more fun.

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Bronzers That Actually Work For Medium, Dark, & Deep Complexions

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Sure, luminizers are great, but in 2019, bronzers have become the unsung heroes of glowing skin. Ages ago, people used them to fake a tan during the colder months, or added creamy formulas underneath foundation, but for some reason, people with darker skin weren't included in that narrative.

"One of the biggest myths of the beauty industry is that people of color already have naturally bronzed skin, so they have no use for bronzer," makeup artist Kilprity Moore tells us. "But if you look hard enough, there are amazing bronzers for everyone."

Highlighting powders can sometimes look too milled or too shiny on medium, dark, and deep complexions. But with bronzers, the formulas are typically warmer, meaning you can dust it on liberally for a glowing effect. So, maybe you don't necessarily need to fake a tan if you're already blessed with melanin — but everyone can score a good glow up. Ahead, get the details on the best bronzers for medium, deep, and dark skin tones.

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For Medium Skin

MAC Bronzing Powder

"Look for a product that brings out your golden tones," Moore suggests. According to the pro, who works with actresses Naturi Naughton and Eva Marcille, this lightweight pick is buildable and has a soft sheen.



MAC Cosmetics MAC Bronzing Powder - Matte Bronze, $28, available at Nordstrom

NYX Cosmetics Matte Bronzer

"I don't wear bronzer every day, so I appreciate an affordable option that gets the job done. This bronzer doesn't fade as the day goes on and gives my already-tan skin more of a sunny glow, which I appreciate year-round," — Thatiana Diaz, Refinery29 Beauty Writer.



NYX Cosmetics Matte Bronzer, $8.99, available at Ulta Beauty

Iman Cosmetics Bronzer Sand

"The light-reflecting shimmer in this automatically gives you a great glow," says makeup artist Renny Vasquez, who's behind the looks of Serena Williams and Brandy.



Iman Cosmetics Bronzer Sand 0.35oz, $15.99, available at Target

NARS Bronzing Powder in Laguna

"Sometimes, medium skin can get a little orange," makeup artist Rachel Toledo says. "This one gives a tan feel without that happening."



NARS Bronzing Powder - Laguna, $40, available at Bloomingdale's

For Dark Skin

Anastasia Beverly Hills Powder Bronzer

"This golden shade instantly warms up my skin, giving it that sun-kissed glow without the UV rays. It's the perfect bronzer color for my shade," says model Kamie Crawford.



Anastasia Beverly Hills Powder Bronzer, $28, available at Sephora

Bobbi Brown Bronzing Powder in Deep Golden Brown

Toledo notes that a warm bronze is best for dark skin "so it doesn't look too ashy," she says.



Bobbi Brown Bronzing Powder - Deep Golden Brown, $44, available at Bobbi Brown

Guerlain Terracotta The Bronzing Powder

This best-seller is a favorite for a reason: It blends easily, creating a naturally chiseled face rather than a dark brown streak.



Guerlain Terracotta Bronzing Powder, $54, available at Sephora

For Deep Skin

NARS Bronzing Powder in Casino

"Try to avoid cool or olive bronzers that will make your complexion look muddy," Moore advises. "This one is super silky," Kilprity says. "It literally looks like a fresh tan!"



NARS Bronzing Powder - Casino, $40, available at Sephora

Fenty Beauty Sun Stalk'r Instant Warmth Bronzer

Fenty's new bronzer comes in 9 shades specifically catered to pop on all skin tones, but especially on dark complexions. The deepest shade, Mocha Mami, has red undertones and will chisel the richest skin colors.



Fenty Beauty By Rihanna Sun Stalk'r Instant Warmth Bronzer, $30, available at Sephora

The Lip Bar Fresh Glow Bronzer

For its first non-lipstick launch, The Lip Bar entered the bronzer category. The new Fresh Glow range includes five new blush and bronzer duos. Each compact features a luminous bronzing powder and a highlighting blush that you can use to contour and highlight. The bronzer shade selection ranges from tan to deep, so a wide variety of brown complexions are covered.

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Jetting Off This Summer? Here's What You Should Wear On The Plane

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When it comes to packing, there are a few explicit rules that the experts swear by: roll, don't fold; check that you have underwear before you leave the house and don't dare bring more than 3 fluid ounces of liquid in your carry-on. With all those tasks on your to-do list, it's easy to overlook the most important aspect of any travel day: what you wear for the journey.

With flight delays becoming more and more frequent, you'll most likely end up waiting at the airport for hours, roaming empty terminals (think Tom Hanks in The Terminal) and letting a tired airline rep determine your fate. Now imagine dealing with all that while simultaneously wearing a pair of too tight jeans and sandals that pinch your feet.

To ensure that your next travel day is as stress free as possible, we went ahead and found 10 summer travel outfits that'll keep you cool and collected from takeoff to touchdown — and everywhere in between.

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A Linen Dress

No matter how tempting a jersey sweat suit might be on a busy travel day, when you have back-to-back meetings directly following a long flight, you're going to want something a little less "I woke up like this" and a little more professional. That's where this linen dress comes in. Comfort, breathability and style — what more can you ask for in a travel look?



Mara Hoffman Extended Sizes Nami Dress, $395, available at Mara HoffmanPhoto Courtesy of Mara Hoffman.

The New Sweater Set

There's nothing more appropriate for the airport than a good, cozy sweater. Now imagine having that feeling from head-to-toe (without having to wear a Snuggie). Introducing the 2019 sweater set, a lightweight, knit top and bottom that's sure to keep you looking and feeling your best the whole flight and beyond.



Yan Yan Denim Tweed Vest, $225, available at Yan Yan

Yan Yan Denim Tweed Pant, $295, available at Yan Yan Photo Courtesy of Yan Yan Knits.

A Stretchy Skirt

If you're bored of stretchy pants, but love the way they feel, try a stretchy midi skirt. More and more, we're seeing brands design knit skirts that feel as comfy as they look. So, no matter your ideal on-plane position, you'll land looking just as put-together as you did before takeoff.



Which We Want Karina Maxi Skirt, $98, available at Need SupplyPhoto Courtesy of Need Supply.

A Versatile Jumpsuit

The jumpsuit is perhaps the most debated clothing item on this list. But while many would argue that a one-piece causes some awkward, bathroom-related issues, there's no denying how comfy a stretchy jumpsuit can be. Throw a chunky sweater or a light jacket to free up space in your carry-on and you're set for any post-plane activities.



Violeta By Mango Flowy Long Jumpsuit, $45.99, available at MangoPhoto Courtesy of Mango.

On-The-Go PJs

We're taking a cue from Sophie Turner's pre-wedding book and taking our PJs for a ride in the outside world.



Sleeper Milk Punch Pajama Set, $189, available at SleeperPhoto Courtesy of Sleeper.

A Leggings Set

No matter how many people hate on leggings, we can't seem to give them up. They're flexible, breathable and comfier than just about any other item we've ever slipped on. For those reasons and more, a leggings set will always be our #1 go-to plane ride 'fit.



Girlfriend Vine Paloma Bra, $38, available at Girlfriend

Girlfriend Vine Compressive High Rise Leggings, $68, available at GirlfriendPhoto Courtesy of Girlfriend.

Oversized Suits

If your regular suits aren't comfortable, oversize them. A purposely oversized pair of trousers and matching jacket are the perfect combination for remaining at ease throughout a long flight.



H&M Twill Utility Jacket, $59.99, available at H&M

H&M Wide-Leg Twill Pants, $59.99, available at H&MPhoto Courtesy of H&M.

The Leggings Bodysuit

If you thought leggings were good for a plane ride, just imagine what a leggings bodysuit must be like. Hint: It's good.



Live The Process Corset Bodysuit, $188, available at Live The ProcessPhoto Courtesy of Live The Process.

Elastic Jeans

No, we're not talking about maternity pants (even though they might work for that, too), but the basic idea of wearing pants with an elastic waistband isn't such a bad idea — especially when you're cramped in a too-small amount of space for hours at a time.



Rachel Comey Barrie Pant, $266, available at ShopbopPhoto Courtesy of Rachel Comey.

A Matching Sweatsuit

Sometimes, when you're in for a long-haul flight, it's OK to compromise on style for a scot-free travel day. In those cases, opt for a matching sweat suit in a light, jersey fabric. Read: avoid throwing on a ratty sweatshirt and sweatpants from your Alma Mater.



Richer Poorer Fleece Sweatpant, $68, available at Nordstrom

Richer Poorer Fleece Sweatshirt, $68, available at NordstromPhoto Courtesy of Richer Poorer.

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Three Women's Lisa Taddeo On Why The Pain Of Desire Is Worth It

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What’s the difference between sex and desire? Sex sells. Sex is an extra spritz of perfume at the nape of your neck. It's a lipstick stain on a pillow. Sex, good or bad, is an act. Desire, though, is a little trickier to put your finger on. But author Lisa Taddeo aims to define this intangible feeling in her debut book, Three Women. “It’s the nuances of desire that hold the truth of who we are at our rawest moments,” Taddeo writes.

A instant celeb favorite and what The Telegraph called this “summer’s hottest read, ” Taddeo explores the shades of sex and desire in a genuine piece of literary nonfiction that was reported over the course of eight years. She moved across the country and delved deep into the private lives of the people who are profiled in the book. There’s Maggie, the youngest, who shares that she was pursued by and developed relationships with older men as a teenager. Those men, who should have been her protectors , took advantage of her open heart. She ultimately takes her high school English teacher to trial for sexual encounters that she says took place during her senior year. Her real name is used in the book, as is her former teacher’s.

Then there’s Sloane, a sophisticated, East Coast restaurateur whose husband likes to watch her have sex with other people. Also profiled is Lina, a suburban Indiana homemaker and mother. Lina can't get her husband to show affection or even kiss her. She embarks on a clandestine affair with her high school boyfriend, which ultimately consumes her. Sloane and Lina’s identities are concealed.

Taddeo got her start as an editorial assistant at Golf Magazine, and later went on to write profiles for Esquire and New York Magazine, where she's touched upon lust and what people will do for sex. But her book is on another level. It uncovers her subject's deepest scars and reveals what makes their hearts pound in their chests.

Taddeo writes nonfiction that reads like fiction, thanks to precise details and immersive reporting on par with Adrian Nicole LeBlanc’s Random Family, which was reported over 11 years. Taddeo’s publisher set out with the idea that Taddeo would reimagine Gay Talese's 1981 nonfiction tome Thy Neighbor’s Wife. This work depicts the people driving the American sexual revolution from the postwar period into the '70s. It profiles players, big and small, from Hugh Hefner to the people buying his magazine. But Alex Belth, a journalism archivist, and the editor of Esquire Classic and The Stacks Reader, says Taddeo’s book taps into something Talese’s didn’t.

"I don’t see it as a sequel, exactly, to Thy Neighbor’s Wife,” he says. “I see it as an intimate portrait of the sex lives of three particular women. Are they representative of something deeper? Of many women’s experiences? I should think, yes. But all? Of course not."

It’s true that the book doesn’t represent all voices. Most of these women are white and protestant, and the majority of the relationships are heterosexual. With that said, all of the women’s stories are told with heart, and they represent a feeling we can all relate to: The pull of desire. It can be sexy or it can be messy — but it’s always interesting. Taddeo tells Refinery29 that going after what you want usually pays off in the long run.

Refinery29: It’s incredibly refreshing to read a book that makes a woman's innermost thoughts the star of a show. When you set out to write it, how did you decide to focus on women's desires?

Lisa Taddeo: I wasn't really choosing women — I was choosing to tell these three stories. In the end, the reason we decided to make these three the only three was because their stories were just so much more immediate than the rest. The main thing is they had been the most honest with me, of all the people I spoke to — which was hundreds. And then eventually I whittled those hundred down to 20. Then there were 10 that I had either moved to be near or had spent a great amount of time with.

But these three people allowed me the most emotional access and tangible, physical access. And that's why their stories, I think, were the most resounding, and that's why they were the ones that we chose to feature.

R29: Do you think women are more open to giving the kind of intense emotional access you need to write a book like this?

Taddeo: Not exactly... With a lot of men that I spoke to, there was a little bit of bravado and ego that came into describing sexual desire and desire in general. It was a little less complex, I found... I thought I was going to be attracted to the narratives of men because it was the opposite gender from mine. I had been writing about men for Esquire, I had been thinking about the desire of men. But when I started looking at the desire of fellow women, I was learning more about myself and seeing how my stories and my friends' stories were reflected in these stories. And I found the relatability of that just so interesting.

R29: You chose to profile three very different women, but one unifying themes was how they were all ultimately judged — by both men and other women — for following their desire. Why do you think that is?

Taddeo: Ultimately, we all are either the heroes or the victims of our own narratives. When [we’re victims], we’ll be judged for not getting what we want… for being weak, instead of strong.

And then, when we're the heroes of our narratives, I think we can be looked at as wanting more than we deserve. Lina had this good marriage, a nice enough house. She had the trappings of what is considered a successful life. I talked to many of the members of her community. "Why do you want more? Why do you need to have an affair? Why is your husband not kissing you a big deal?" they would ask. One woman was like, "I don't want to have sex with my husband. You're lucky."

You know, there's a lot of judging and projecting one's own needs on other people.

R29: And how does judgment factor into us letting ourselves go after our desires?

Taddeo: I think that it certainly makes us edit ourselves in ways that thwart the journey towards that desire — whether it's emotional, sexual, or professional. Whatever one's biggest desire is at any given point in time. I think a lot of people are afraid to say it out loud. It's the dishonesty in the editing... Silence holds us back.

I would like it, if the book does anything for a reader, it's to come away thinking that we are all in pain at different points, and not in pain at different points. And, to not judge people, especially when they're laying their entire souls out and being honest. Listen and make them feel like it was the right idea to be truthful about what they want. Do not judge.

R29: I noticed that body image came into play pretty heavily in both Lina and Sloane's stories. Do you think that a woman's relationship to her body is related to her relationship with desire and sex?

Taddeo: Yeah, definitely. Obviously I've known plenty of women who I've talked to who do not care, and they're definitely more free-spirited when it comes to whatever way they look. But, for the most part, a lot of the women I spoke to did not feel comfortable — were not able to achieve orgasm, for example — if they weren't happy with the way that they looked when they were having sex.

For men, it's a lot more of an engagement with another body and sort of achieving this sexual pleasure, whereas for a woman, it's a lot about how she's seeing herself reflected in this other person… I think that women fall back in love with themselves when they're with a person who is loving their body or who they are. But I think that has a lot to do with the way that a woman sees herself before the man even comes into play.

R29: In Sloane's profile specifically, you wrote that it wasn't always her own desire that she was serving, but her husband’s — and the world’s. For Lina, you wrote that she came from “a place where women were taught their only real value was what they can do for someone else.” How does it hurt women when they put the desire of others before their own?

Taddeo: You know, I think that it's difficult, but also it's what women have been taught they need to do in order to keep a relationship. It's also a lot to do with our parents, and the way that we're raised, and the way that we watch our mothers with our fathers. It’s less about a woman's biology than it is about the way that we hand out a patriarchal idea of how women should act in relationships.

R29: Does desire always lead to drama?

Taddeo: We see desire and happiness, but we also see pain in the book. The reason we listen to any story or read any book is because we want there to be a dramatic arc to it. I think we similarly want there to be a dramatic arc to our own lives. Because if there wasn't, if we were just living in a sort of peaceful contentment, I don't know if that would really be something that — when we're on a rocking chair years from now — that we would be entirely happy with.

R29: Based on your earlier work, it seems like desire has always been a topic that you've been interested in. In a 2008 Esquire story, you wrote: "We misjudge the weight of our desire." After writing this book, how do you think desire weighs us down, and, perhaps, lifts us up.

Taddeo: One of the things that I gleaned from these women's stories — and from almost all of the people I spoke to for the book — was this. Even if someone has suffered at the hands of some passionate interlude, they would do it over again because of the way that the experience shaped them.

Ultimately, everyone imagines being on that rocking chair on a porch when they're 85, and being able to look at their life. And we remember things as good or bad that are really trenchant, hardcore experiences that made us who we are. Desire weighs us down. It also lifts us up, and I don't think we would change either aspect of it.

Responses have been lightly edited and condensed for clarity.

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This Cutesy Nail-Art Trend Is A Total '90s Throwback

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Like palm trees, ladybugs, and itty-bitty flowers, butterflies have long been a staple on the nail-art menu of most salons. The last time you wore the half-heart wings on your fingernails was probably around the same time you had the hair clips to match — circa mid-'90s — but if there was ever a time to bring the old-school butterfly back into your nail-art rotation, it's right now.

Like the comeback of the classic French tip, butterfly nail art has seen a huge trend resurgence as of late, according to cool-girl salons like NYC's Vanity Projects. Rita Pinto, the salon's owner and founder, tells us that summer 2019 has been all about retro nail art. "It sounds odd, but all of this summer's biggest nail trends are '90s throwbacks: deep white French, rainbows, and now butterflies," Pinto says.

Ahead, we've broken down the chicest butterfly manicures new to Instagram. Scroll through the gallery and screenshot your favorite look before your next salon appointment, or try the trend in its DIY — and also very '90 — form with a pack of nail-art stickers.

"We've seen the butterfly design in a bunch of different styles," Pinto says. "Most looks have the wings floating asymmetrically across the fingers."

Ayumu Takasawa, resident nail artist at Vanity Projects, tells us that brightly -colored butterflies painted with blue or orange polish give a feminine touch to any manicure.

If you look closely, you can see that nail artist Hang Nguyen remixed her butterfly design by combining it with a leopard-spotted tip.

Another on-trend combo: white pearl nails with a butterfly accent.

We're also partial to this almond-shaped mani with an electric-blue base and dainty gold foils in the mix.

Tiny laser-cut butterflies — like these ones on Amazon — add some pizazz when sprinkled over a fresh white mani.

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Angelina Jolie Just Got The Perfect Subtle Hair Upgrade For Summer

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For years now, Angelina Jolie has stuck to a signature look: long, dark hair; fair, glowing skin; and the occasional red lip. But while stepping out in Paris earlier today, the actress-turned-humanitarian looked a little different, with a noticeably shorter haircut and seemingly brighter color, too.

Jolie, who usually wears her hair just past her collarbone, rocked a center-parted style with curled blunt-cut ends. Her dark-chocolate hair color also looked softer and lighter with wispy caramel pieces toward the ends — very on trend for the season... not that the star is known to follow trends.

It's an unusual comparison, but the subtle summery change brings Kate Middleton's recent hair switch to mind: In the past couple of weeks, the Duchess of Cambridge — along with other celebrities, including Michelle Obama and Kim Kardashian — revealed ever-so-slightly lightened shades of brown. Obama opted for ombré blonde highlights all over her curly hair for Essence Festival last weekend, and Kardashian posed on Instagram with "frosted brown" hair.

Jolie's subtle placement and barely-there chop is a reminder that not all summer transformations need to be drastic. Sometimes, a simple trim and quick color refresh is all you need to switch things up — even if your signature style hasn't changed since the mid-2000s.

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The 19 Summer Fashion Trends Editors Are Wearing

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I’m very easily influenced by my peers, they’re probably the #1 reason for my clothing purchases and new brand discoveries. Those wide leg jeans I never thought I would wear? Saw them on an editor and tracked them down. That fun brand that I now obsessively follow on Instagram? Discovered it on a friend’s IG story.

My first introduction to the season's emerging fashion trends always happens via some stylish industry ladies. We may not have exactly the same style, but the differing perspectives are what make personal style and fashion so! much! fun! This summer, I'm letting myself be extra impressionable and absorbing their favorite trends like a sponge. I enlisted some fashion friends to spill their top trends of the summer.

Click through for what you'll be seeing these 19 editors and influencers wearing this season.

At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

Naomi Elizée, Fashion Market Assistant at Vogue

Your summer trend: Barely-There Strappy Sandals

I love this trend because: I'm a sucker for a minimal outfit paired with an even more minimal shoe (maybe I'm channeling my inner Carrie Bradshaw)...a barely there strappy sandal adds a certain sexiness to any vanilla outfit.



Rejina Pyo Harley Leather Sandals, $545, available at Net-A-Porter

Laurise McMillian, Content Strategy Editor Instagram

Your summer trend: Tie-dye

I love this trend because: It reminds me of being a kid. The print always seemed to be around during family vacations to the beach and field hockey practice. Good times!



Cotton Citizen The Brisbane Bodysuit, $115, available at RevolvePhoto Courtesy of Revolve.

Michelle Li, Assoc. Fashion Market Editor and writer of this story!

Your summer trend: Sweater Pants

I love this trend because: I've always packed away my pants and jeans when spring and summer come, but this season I'm giving sweater pants a chance. They're two constant leg hugs and I love the casual ribbed way they look. Can't wait to find all the different ways to style them!!!!



Yan Yan Tweedle Pant, $295, available at Yan Yan

Jessica Andrews, Deputy Fashion Director

Your summer trend: Animal Print / Western

I love this trend because: My favorite summer trend is a bit of a mashup: animal print but incorporated into Western fashion looks. Cowgirl style isn’t exactly new (long live the #BlackYeehawAgenda!) but I love experimenting with it for everyday looks, especially when I can mix Western boots with my fave snake print.



Ganni Western Ankle Boots, $285, available at GanniPhoto Courtesy of Ganni.

Chelsea Peng, Fashion Editor, Branded Content

Your summer trend: Camp-collar shirts

I love this trend because: I saw Jeff Goldblum wearing this camp-collar shirt, so I bought this camp-collar shirt — and styled it in a Rejina Pyo-ish way (open over a swimsuit top, with a midi skirt and fancy-lady heeled sandals). On women, this menswear classic looks (and feels) breezy, while smacking of tropical vacations on film.



DOUBLE RAINBOUU S/S Hawaiian Button Up Shirt, $189, available at Need SupplyPhoto Courtesy of Need Supply.

Mi Anne Chan, Associate Producer

Your summer trend: Puff Sleeves

I love this trend because: Three words: Built-in air conditioning. Puff sleeves, sartorially, seem very cool. All the coolest girls are wearing them, all the coolest designers are playing with the silhouette. That's all good and well, but what I find particularly alluring is the fact that the airy sleeves provide breeziness. And come summer, when I'm sweating even more than I already do, I'm really going to need some clothing that won't show a multitude of pit stains.



C/MEO Collective Vice Plaid Puff Sleeve Wrap Top, $79.99, available at Urban Outfitters

Kristen Lam, Influencer

Your summer trend: A pop of neon

I love this trend because: I'm all about an understated look - that usually means safe and neutral colors. But I'm so into neon these days, I've been slowly starting to incorporate neon into my wardrobe with little accents - like this GANNI bag that I've been carrying around with me literally everywhere.



Ganni Tech Fabric Handbag, $69, available at GanniPhoto Courtesy of Ganni.

Jen Mulrow, Fashion & Beauty Writer, Branded Content

Your summer trend: Sustainable shift dresses

I love this trend because: I’m slowly but surely building my dream wardrobe of effortless, one-and-done shift dresses that have me and my morning bed head looking put together in five seconds flat. This summer, light and breathable linen options in earthy tones are my ultimate go-to.



See You Sunday The Hunter Dress, $198, available at See You SundayPhoto Courtesy of See You Sunday.

Jessica Wu, E-Commerce and Press Director

Your summer trend: Structural Skirts

I love this trend because: I cannot live without a classic black miniskirt in the summer, although it's honestly a year round staple for me. This piece takes it a step further with a asymmetrical twist and interesting silhouette.



Peter Do Asymmetric Satin-Crepe Skirt, $500, available at Net-A-Porter

Alyssa Coscarelli, Freelance Writer & Consultant

Your summer trend: Floral Dresses

I love this trend because: Florals for summer.. Groundbreaking. I just can't help it! They're all I want to wear, and mostly the all-over-printed, ruffled-collar variation. I plan on doing a lot of traveling this summer and they're the easiest thing to pack, throw on and go — and then wear again, and again, and again. It's a no-brainer.



Stine Goya Clarabelle Dress, $217, available at Revolve

Eliza Huber, Fashion Market Writer

Your summer trend: Knit Midi Skirts

I love this trend because: This knit skirt is so fun and work with tons of different combinations. You could wear it with a t-shirt and sneakers or heels and a little white blouse. And it's really comfy (trust me, I've worn it like six times already).



Which We Want Karina Maxi Skirt, $98, available at Need SupplyPhoto Courtesy of Need Supply.

Lauren Eggertsen, Fashion Editor, Who What Wear

Your summer trend: Wallpaper Prints

I love this trend because: I love this trend because it finally feels like a fresh take on florals. The prints are delicate, placed on white backgrounds, making the design of the print itself really stand out. I'll be wearing this summer print trend in place of the prairie floral everyone and their mothers wore all last year.



Reformation Marseilles Dress, $198, available at Reformation

Maria Alia, Multi-faceted Creative

Your summer trend: Kitten Sandals-Preferably Vintage

I love this trend because: I love the simplicity of dainty straps or just a single strap on a little kitten sandal. It screams spring summer circa the early 2000s and I’m dying to pair them up with basically my entire spring summer 19 wardrobe.



Staud Gita Sandal Sky Blue, $325, available at Staud

Mecca James-Williams, Fashion Stylist and Contributing Market Editor at TZR

Your summer trend: Tie Dye

I love this trend because: Who am I? This trend hands down is a trend I'd have never thought I would subscribe to, but here I am! Brands like Asai and Colina Strada have inspired me so much to style and wear Tie-Dye this summer! It's a really fun micro trend that has blown up this season! One that I am excited to refresh for myself as grown woman, and not a 12 year old! I really appreciate this trend on mesh and finely knit pieces, there is a divine femininity that speaks from these pieces.



Collina Strada Necklace Tee Blue Dye Tee, $140, available at Collina StradaPhoto Courtesy of Collina Strada.

Cyndi Ramirez, Founder & Chiller-in-Chief of Chillhouse

Your summer trend: 80s track suit vibezzz

I love this trend because: I'm so into this 80s aerobics power-walking aesthetic. It speaks to me in levels I can't even explain. First of all, my mom definitely used to rock her fair share of these around my age and the fact that we've circled back to this trend is wild to me. Second, it's comfortable AF and surprisingly can be worn with both sneakers and strappy heels like these. Big fan, fully intend on supporting all summer.



Acne Studios Osaze Anorak, $258, available at Shopbop

Tara Gonzalez, Commerce Editor at Glamour.com

Your summer trend: Shrimp Print

I love this trend because: Call me crazy but I think shrimp is going to be trending in the next couple of months. Fashion loves a good food pattern (just think about cherries!!!) and I've been seeing the cute lil crustacean everywhere recently.



Susan Alexandra Shrimp!!! Bracelet, $70, available at Susan Alexandra

Babba Rivera, Founder of ByBabba Marketing Agency

Your summer trend: The Biker Short

I love this trend because: The summer is all about comfort! After all, we are saying goodbye to the cold winter Uber rides and hello to more summer walks. The biker short allows me to do just that. Of course I wouldn't stop at just the biker short, I would layer it with a white crips button down/favorite vintage tee, a structured blazer and my favorite Nikes Cortez sneakers or a white sling back heel. This outfit guarantees a pleasant and relaxing summer.



Tibi High Waisted Biker Shorts, $275, available at Shopbop

Harling Ross, Fashion Editor at Man Repeller

Your summer trend: Summer sweaters (a.k.a. knit tanks)

I love this trend because: I'm pretty sure knit tanks are going to be THE shirt of the summer, mainly because they offer a distinct contrast to last year's reigning champ (puffy-sleeved white blouses). I'm very excited about wearing them tucked into mid-length denim skirts and paired with barely-there strappy sandals and a pistachio gelato and can you tell I'm spending way too much time thinking about summer already!?



Naadam Button Up Tank Banana, $75, available at Naadam

Aemilia Madden, Senior Fashion Editor at TZR

Your summer trend: Tie Dye

I love this trend because: I chalk it up to my formative years spent living in and around Berkeley, but tie dye has always been an important component of my closet. I'm excited to see it appear in so many fresh fabrications this season — both casual and dressed up. Though I promise not to wear it head to toe (yet), I'm excited to mix and match luxe silk tops or dresses with my Birkenstocks and to maybe DIY a shirt or two when I find the time to get crafty.



ASAI Hot Wok Turtleneck, $365, available at SSENSEPhoto Courtesy of Ssense.

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Jeffrey Epstein's New York Accusers Could Sue Him Under This New Law

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The news of Jeffrey Epstein’s sex-trafficking charges have sent shockwaves around the globe. And while the billionaire's possible (delayed) comeuppance has his past accusers feeling hopeful, a new state law could give survivors of Epstein's alleged abuse in New York a renewed opportunity to seek justice.

The Child Victims Act, which was signed into law by Gov. Andrew Cuomo in February, grants survivors of child sexual assault more time to go after their abusers. Under the new law, which goes into effect August 14, survivors will be able to pursue criminal felony charges until they turn 28, and file a civil lawsuit before age 55. It also creates a one-year window for survivors of any age "during which presently time-barred civil claims could be revived." Currently, New York state law has one of the most restrictive statutes of limitations for child molestation in the country, giving survivors until age 23 to file criminal or civil lawsuits. Many of Epstein’s past accusers are now in their late 20s and 30s.

Attorney Carrie A. Goldberg, whose firm is known for taking on "pervs, assholes, psychos, and trolls, " put out an offer on Twitter to represent New York-based survivors of Epstein’s or his associates’. "I feel deeply connected to this case," Goldberg told Refinery29 in an interview. "Epstein had a home here in New York, and he was free to continue preying on minors. These are the same law enforcers I rely on every single day to bring justice to my clients' offenders and who consistently refuse to prosecute," she said, referring to Manhattan District Attorney Cy Vance, who failed to prosecute Harvey Weinstein in 2015 and downgraded Epstein's sex offender status. "They are inept at holding men in power accountable." Goldberg also represents Lucia Evans and formerly represented Paz de la Huerta, two of Weinstein’s accusers.

For survivors of child sexual abuse, the Child Victims Act provides an opportunity for justice that they may previously have found out of reach, Goldberg said. Although the "lookback window" doesn’t go into effect until August, she said her firm has been sending out demand letters to its clients’ offenders and has recovered $850,000 for one client. (A non-Epstein-related client; she said she hasn't been contacted by any of his accusers yet.)

In addition to seeking financial restitution for those who allege Epstein abused them, the discovery portion of these lawsuits could bring to the surface other dirty secrets that prosecutors could be hiding, she said.

"We live in a society where we totally accept people's right to sue for a car wreck or injury on a public playground — yet when crimes are intentional and involve gender-based or sexual violence, victims who demand justice of their offenders are waved away as opportunists, liars, crazies, gold diggers, media whores," Goldberg said. "It’s a disgusting double standard."

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