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A Week In Boulder, CO, On A $44,000 Salary

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Today: a billing manager who makes $44,000 per year and spends some of her money this week on clementines.

Occupation: Billing Manager
Industry: Healthcare
Age: 26
Location: Boulder, CO
Salary: $44,000
Paycheck Amount (2x/month): $1,373.08

Monthly Expenses
Rent: $538.30 for my room in a five-bedroom house. I got a great deal specifically so that I could have more fun money, but I just got a raise that will take effect soon, so when my lease ends in August, I'm going to look for a place with fewer roommates.
Student Loans: $0 (I earned a scholarship that covered almost all of my tuition, and my parents paid the rest.)
Car Insurance: $53.99
Car Payment: $256.81 (I got a great deal on my car a couple of years ago and chose a three-year loan, so it's almost completely paid off!)
Utilities: $25-$50/month for my share
Netflix/HBO: $0 (Thanks to my mom and friends!)
Hulu: $5.99 (I share this one with my mom.)
Walmart Beauty Box: $10 quarterly (Four times a year you get samples for free and just pay for shipping. I get this for my mom, too.)
Ipsy Glam Bag: $10
Maximum Fun Podcast Contribution: $5 (I listen to podcasts constantly!)
Gym Membership: $44
Roller Derby League Dues: $50
Phone: $0 (I'm still on my parents' plan. It was my college graduation present.)
IRA: 3% of my salary, which my company matches. Hopefully, I can contribute more in the future, but for now I'm doing the minimum matching amount.
Savings: $0-$400 a month if I have anything left over!

Day One

8 a.m. — My first alarm goes off, and I scroll through the news and Instagram on my phone. I crawl out of bed about 30 minutes later to throw on sweats, wash my face, and microwave a small pitcher of water so I can make Dunkin' Donuts coffee in my French press (so classy). My dog and I step out to the backyard for a few minutes so he can do his thing and I can get at least a little sunshine. By 9, I'm back in the house on my laptop, ready to start work for the day.

11:35 a.m. — I had a busy morning — lots of insurance calls and closing out accounts — and now I'm starving. I heat up some of last night's vegan lentil curry soup. I don't think I'll ever go 100% vegan, since chicken wings are my all-time favorite, but I do try out a lot of vegan recipes. This one was a hit! I pop a slice of Trader Joe's sourdough bread in the toaster to enjoy on the side and sit back down for a working lunch at my desk.

12:15 p.m. — I'm still hungry, so I go back for another cup of soup. I've been a lot more active lately, and I can literally feel my metabolism speeding up.

12:30 p.m. — I make myself a cup of TJ's Tulsi tea with stevia and lemon and sit back at my desk for more calls and closing accounts. It's outrageously nice out today, so this feels like my spreadsheet version of spring cleaning!

2:15 p.m. — I'm done moving spreadsheets around. I have a flexible schedule where I have to work 9 to 2 every day, and my other hours are up to me. Normally on a Wednesday I'd work right up until my evening yoga class, but it's beautiful outside and I want to take advantage of the weather.

2:45 p.m. — After finishing up some laundry and changing into yoga clothes, I grab the pup and we head to the dog park. The closest one to us is over two miles away, so we have to drive — hopefully, we can move somewhere within walking distance of a park this summer. It's a beautiful day for the park! My dog has a great time playing with two friendly greyhounds, and they tire each other out after about an hour. On the way home, we stop by the post office so I can drop off a clothing return with a prepaid shipping label. Hopefully, this gets processed quickly and I get about $50 back on my credit card soon.

4:30 p.m. — Not super hungry yet, but I know that if I don't eat something before yoga, I'll spend the whole class thinking of what I'm going to eat later. I snack on a couple hard-boiled eggs and a slice of sourdough toast with peanut butter while watching Big Mouth on Netflix. By 5, I'm out the door walking to class.

6:30 p.m. — Yoga was a delight, as always! My favorite instructor went out of her way to teach me a few stretches that will hopefully help loosen up my back muscles, since my upper back is tight. After class, I stop by the grocery store to get a pork loin so I can make pulled pork and later posole sometime this week. At the store, I realize that the pulled pork obviously won't be done in time for dinner tonight, so I pick up a few things for a quick dinner: ground turkey, black beans, onions, garlic, and sweet potatoes. I also buy a can of hominy for the posole, as well as a bag of clementines for snacking. I call my mom on the way home, and we end up talking for over an hour. $26.72

8:30 p.m. — I finally get started on the sweet potato chili. It was supposed to be a 30-minute recipe, but I like to take my time in the kitchen. By the time I'm done, it's 9:30 and I curl up with my dog on the couch to eat and watch Big Mouth.

10 p.m. — I've got some serious munchies, so after the chili I make myself a sweet snack plate with a clementine, a square of TJ's Birthday Cake Bar, and a Joe-Joe's Slim cookie. Smorgasbords are kind of a tradition in my family, so taking the time to plate a tiny assortment of fun foods instead of just grabbing a candy bar or a handful of chips has always been comforting to me. The pup and I keep on cuddling and watching Big Mouth, and we fall asleep around 11.

Daily Total: $26.72

Day Two

8:30 a.m. — I snooze a few times today. I got plenty of sleep, but still I'm exhausted. I did some intense work yesterday at yoga to stretch out my sore muscles from Monday's roller derby practice, but today my whole body just feels like a lead noodle. I roll out of bed, take a handful of ibuprofen, heat up leftover coffee from yesterday, and start my work day by 9.

10:20 a.m. — I remember that my pulled-pork recipe isn't going to cook itself and that slow cookers are, in fact, very slow. I throw the pork loin in the cooker with some seasonings I have on hand and half a can of beer, and I set it to low. This is my first time making pulled pork, and I'm so excited!

11:10 a.m. — I go to make my first call of the day and notice that my earbuds aren't working. The adapter that allows me to plug them into my phone is bent. I order a two-pack from Amazon with my work credit card. ($9.99 expensed)

12 p.m. — I heat up some leftover turkey chili for lunch and top it with half an avocado and a bunch of fresh cilantro. I toast some sourdough bread to eat on the side and sit back down at my desk to eat. After lunch, I heat up some more Tulsi tea. I almost didn't buy it after the TJ's cashier started going on about all its health benefits. I can't help but roll my eyes when someone preaches about alternative medicine, but I'm glad I bought it, because this stuff tastes like honey and it's actually delicious.

2:45 p.m. — I've been getting transferred from one department to another all afternoon, and I'm getting frustrated. I want to be done, but I have a few more calls to make. I head to the kitchen (which smells delicious from the pulled pork) and make a cup of TJ's Winter Wake Up tea with milk and stevia. After my tea is hot and ready, I sit back down to do a few more calls.

3:45 p.m. — My last call of the day is actually a good one. I'm going to my boyfriend, G.'s, house tonight, so I hop in the shower and change into some cuter yet still comfy clothes. G.'s house is 35 minutes away in a different town, so I like to wait until the traffic has lessened to head up. I have a slice of peanut butter toast and a clementine to tide me over until dinner. Then I check my pulled pork, and it's absolutely perfect! I pack it up and throw it in the fridge for later before heading out.

6:45 p.m. — At G.'s house, we finish degassing a batch of wine we started a few weeks ago. Then we make chicken wings from the wing cookbook he bought me for my birthday last week. They're fruity, spicy, and delicious! They go perfectly with the new IPA he just finished. It's my favorite type of beer, so I help myself to three glasses. We finish off the night watching Doctor Who (G.'s been trying to get me into it for a while now, and it's finally working!) and go to sleep around midnight.

Daily Total: $0

Day Three

6:30 a.m. — G.'s alarm goes off twice. He's an early bird. I can't imagine getting up this early, so I doze on and off for another hour. While I'm half asleep, I hear him let all three dogs out and feed them all in separate areas (since one of his dogs is food-aggressive). He takes the best care of these doggies, and it melts my heart. When I finally wake up, G. and I have a little coffee together before he has to leave for work.

8:15 a.m. — It's cold and rainy out and I forgot to bring a jacket, so I'm feeling pretty miserable on the way home. I stop by Dutch Bros. The line is long, but they have a really nice guy taking orders outside. He compliments my dog and I mention that I've never been here before, so he recommends I get a Golden Eagle and tells me my first drink is on the house! The person at the drive-up window is also delightful and gives my dog a cookie. My drink is delicious — too sweet for every day — but I definitely enjoy it, and I know I'll be back the next chance I get.

9 a.m. — I'm back at home, logging into my laptop. I start to feel kind of queasy and anxious, probably from some combination of my two coffees this morning and my three beers last night. It's a work-from-bed kind of day. I do some more mindless tasks like applying payments and sending out insurance claims. I did a ton of calls yesterday, and I'll be in the office every day next week, so hopefully today I don't actually have to talk to anyone.

11:30 a.m. — I heat up some leftover turkey chili with toast for lunch. It makes me feel a little better and less jittery. Then I keep trying to be productive for the rest of the afternoon.

2:15 p.m. — I got enough done to call it a day, so I'm giving up. I'm feeling super anxious, and the gloomy weather isn't helping, so I decide I can finish things next week. I pour myself a bowl of TJ's white cheddar popcorn and decide to watch a show and maybe doze off for a bit. I have friends coming over for a girls' night later, and I need to shake these bad vibes before then.

4:45 p.m. — Nap time is over and I feel a little better. I decide to go pick up wine for tonight from the nearby liquor store, which happens to be dog-friendly. A walk always perks me up! Once I'm at the liquor store, though, I realize I left my purse in my car. Oh well, the girls usually bring a couple bottles anyway, and if they don't, they'll just have to drink what I have on hand.

7 p.m. — My friends show up to my house (bringing several bottles of wine, of course), and we have drinks for a couple hours while we catch up.

9:30 p.m. — We order a Lyft to Pearl Street for half-off sushi. But when we step outside, there's a full-on snowstorm happening! Colorado weather is wild, y'all. My friend offers to pay for my food since we didn't get a chance to celebrate my birthday last week, so I pay for the Lyfts on the way there and back. After plenty of drinks, way too much sushi, and a free birthday ice cream, we have a fun ride back home. We chat for a while and end up going to bed around 1 a.m. $22.73

Daily Total: $22.73

Day Four

8 a.m. — I wake up to the sound of my friend leaving — we all got pretty tipsy last night, so she slept on the couch. I get ready, let the dog out, and leave for roller derby practice by 9.

9:30 a.m. — I swing by Deli Zone for a breakfast sandwich and order a small one with eggs, cheese, cream cheese, sausage, tomato, and jalapeños. I think about buying a soda, but remember that I packed a Coke Zero in my bag. I eat most of the sandwich in the car on my way to practice but leave a little for later so that I don't feel too full to skate. $5.84

1:20 p.m. — Done with practice. I'm exhausted and already sore! I finish the last few bites of my breakfast sandwich on my ride home. Once I'm back, I shower, get ready, and then heat up a cup of leftover turkey chili, which I eat with toast, two clementines, and a couple of Joe-Joe's. Roller derby makes me an eating machine, and I'm totally okay with that. Afterward, I snuggle up on the couch with the pup, drinking chai tea and watching New Girl.

4:15 p.m. — G. picks me up and we head to a neighboring town where one of my favorite breweries is releasing a new beer. We have two beers each and split a third one. I pay because G. has been paying more often lately and I need to catch up. G. orders poutine and gumbo from a food truck for a late lunch, and I have a few bites of the poutine, which is delicious! $38.75

7 p.m. — After a few hours at the brewery, we head home to my house. We watch a couple of episodes of Broad City (I'm getting him into it) and split an ice cream sandwich left over from my birthday. Then he leaves so he can go home to take care of his doggies.

9:30 p.m. — I wish I had something closer to a meal tonight, so I pop some pizza rolls in the air fryer and eat them with some cheese popcorn. Then I watch a couple of episodes of Flavor of Love Girls: Charm School. I just recently got into trashy reality TV, and in all honesty I don't regret it one bit. I end up falling asleep around 11:30.

Daily Total: $44.59

Day Five

8:10 a.m. — I wake up from some weird dreams and scroll through all my news and social media for almost an hour. I consider going on a real hike today, but I know it'll be muddy in the mountains from the recent snow, so I decide to go on a long walk with my dog around the neighborhood instead. I get up and throw on leggings, and then we're out the door a little after 9.

10:20 a.m. — After almost four miles, we're back at the house. I finish the last of the chili with more toast. Then I heat up a cup of coffee and have a piece of TJ's Birthday Cake Bar while watching an episode of Charm School.

12:30 p.m. — I put on my new corduroy jumper over a long-sleeved black bodysuit and head to G.'s house. I wear comfy clothes too often since I usually work from home, and I've been dying to wear this jumper, so our happy hour date this afternoon seems like a fine occasion.

12:40 p.m. — I'm almost out of gas, so I swing by King Soopers to fill up and get points on my rewards card. The total for a full tank comes out to $19.30, and that can last me almost 400 freeway miles. $19.30

3:15 p.m. — G. and I walk down to Main Street and visit a colorful new Mexican place that we discovered last week. They have an amazing happy hour every day, even on weekends. We only intended to buy a couple of $5 happy hour margaritas, but the server told us it would be a better deal to get a $24 pitcher, so we each have almost three drinks. We also get chips and salsa because their salsa is delicious. I pick up the tab, because G. is planning on buying dinner later. $33.21

5:45 p.m. — We head down the street to a local sports bar and order burgers and a couple of beers. It's restaurant week, so we also get a free dessert — some kind of chocolate coffee cheesecake. I tell G. that it tastes like the best dessert at a buffet. Definitely not bad, but also something I wouldn't order on its own. G. pays for dinner, and I order a Lyft back to his house. It's only like 12 blocks, but we don't feel like walking. $9.30

7 p.m. — Back at the house, we turn on Thor: Ragnarok. Thor is my favorite Avenger, so I can't believe I never saw this when it came out! Toward the end of the movie, I get anxious about my long day tomorrow. I've sobered up, so I drive back home and go to sleep around 10:30.

Daily Total: $61.81

Day Six

7 a.m. — I wake up a few minutes before my alarm and hop in the shower right away. Then I throw on a denim button-up, khaki-colored skinny jeans, and some goldenrod oxfords. I grab a frozen Tupperware full of my leftover lentil curry soup for lunch, along with a Coke Zero and a couple clementines. I also heat up yesterday's leftover coffee and throw it in my to-go cup with some milk and stevia. At work, I find a parking spot right away, so I get to relax for a few minutes and keep listening to an episode of a podcast I just got into, Court Appointed. I'm in the office right on time at 8:30. Office days are wild — by the time I sit down at the front desk, it feels like I've already been at work for hours!

11:15 a.m. — I have one of my clementines, plus a couple slices of cheese and a peanut butter cup from the office to tide me over until I get a break for lunch later. I just remembered I have a free sub coupon on my phone for Firehouse Subs that expires today, so I'll have to eat my curry tomorrow. I make myself a cup of mint tea and get back to work.

1:05 p.m. — I duck out of the office to drop my dog off at the groomer. I have to go all the way home to get him, but there's no traffic at all, so we end up at the groomer by 1:30, right on time!

1:35 p.m. — I go to Firehouse Subs for my free sandwich, but when I get there I realize my coupon is just for a free drink. It's fine, though — fountain drinks in Boulder are expensive because of our by-the-ounce sugar tax (even on sugar-free sodas), so a free large soda is actually a pretty good perk. I pay for a small Italian sub and get my free drink, which is huge. I get back to the office right before 2. $6.53

5:50 p.m. — I stayed a little late to help set up for a client dinner, but now I'm on my way to pick up my dog from the groomer. He looks beautiful, and the groomer said he was very well-behaved! The total for the groom comes out to $97, which includes a teeth brushing, nail grinding, and ear cleaning. It's more than I spend on my own hair, for sure, but I only get his hair cut a few times a year. I pay using the rest of a gift card I have that was left over from a refund on a very, very bad groom last year, and then cover the rest with my debit card. The groomer is really sweet and we'll be back to see her again, so I hand her a $10 cash tip as well. Next, I rush home to drop off my dog and head out to roller derby practice. On the way, I snack on some almonds and a turkey jerky stick. $53.48

9:20 p.m. — Finally done with practice, I head home and make myself some ramen with frozen French green beans and a couple of eggs. I eat while watching an episode of Charm School and fall asleep around 11:15.

Daily Total: $60.01

Day Seven

7:15 a.m. — I wake up and hop in the shower right away again; I usually don't shower two days in a row, but roller derby has completely destroyed my entire bathing schedule. I throw on a green plaid shirt dress, leggings, and black boots because it's cold again (where is spring?) and leave my dog with a big bone to chew on while I'm at work. He was a good boy yesterday, so he deserves it. Then I head out at 8 and swing by Dunkin' for a coffee. They now have Peeps flavor! I have to try it, obviously, and it does not disappoint. I make it to the office right on time at 8:30. $2.28

11:40 a.m. — I'm getting hungry, but my boss has meetings with new clients all morning and I know she doesn't want the whole office to smell like curry just now. I grab leftovers from last night's dinner to tide me over. I'll have a real lunch after meetings are over. I make myself a cup of strawberry pomegranate tea and sit back down at my desk.

3:15 p.m. — I've been super busy with 100 things to do all day, but that's definitely made the day fly by! I take a quick 10-minute break to eat half of a sandwich from our client meeting today. I'll just have to put off eating my packed lunch for another day. After my break, I sit back down to work on scanning in paperwork and drawing up estimates.

5:20 p.m. — I head home a few minutes early. I was so busy today, I didn't have time to take a long enough break to go home and let my dog out, so I know he probably really needs to go out. After we get home, we go out to hit our step goal for the day and end up walking for over an hour.

7:45 p.m. — I decide to finally make the posole recipe I've been wanting to try. It's my first time making or eating this dish, so I have no clue how it will turn out. It's actually delicious! I followed the recipe almost exactly, but I added a couple of jalapeños because I happened to have them lying around. Afterward, I sit down to eat on the couch with the pup while watching another episode of Charm School.

10 p.m. — I need something sweet, so I put together a little dessert plate with a clementine, a few Joe-Joe's Slims, and a little bit of Chicago Mix Popcorn. I end up going to bed around 10:30.

Daily Total: $2.28

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After A Grammar Fix, Olivia Jade Beauty Might Actually Happen

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Update: Despite punctuation and grammatical errors, Olivia Jade 's attempt to trademark her own beauty brand has gone through. As papers filed by the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office show, the office has accepted the edits to both the "Olivia Jade " and "Olivia Jade Beauty " trademarks, which means that Jade is one step closer to launching a beauty brand of her own. But with her parents facing prison time, maybe she's got other things on her mind.

This post was originally published on March 27, 2019.

The world now knows Olivia Jade as one of the young women at the center of the never-ending college cheating scandal, with her parents — actress Lori Loughlin and fashion designer Mossimo Giannulli — accused of paying bribes to get her into the University of Southern California. But back in 2018, Jade was just another YouTuber with dreams of launching her very own beauty brand.

As records from the United States Patent and Trademark Office show, back in May 2018, Jade and her team attempted to trademark both "Olivia Jade " and "Olivia Jade Beauty." Records show that Olivia Jade Beauty was initially planning to offer items including brushes and "grooming accessories," but as the application went back and forth between Jade's attorneys and the office, the terms expanded to include everything from cosmetics, like lipgloss and eyelashes, to skin care, including cleansers, lotions, and serums.

However, both trademark applications are now in peril, largely because of punctuation errors, including many a misplaced comma. In papers filed on March 15, the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office noted several punctuation and grammatical issues in the trademark applications for "Olivia Jade " and "Olivia Jade Beauty."

"Proper punctuation in identifications is necessary to delineate explicitly each product or service within a list and to avoid ambiguity," the USPTO officials wrote. "Commas, semicolons, and apostrophes are the only punctuation that should be used." Officials also noted how terms used in the applications — including "make up kits" with "moisturizer" and "concealer" — are too broad, and need to be further specified.

Both applications have been subjected to similar criticism before, with words like "cosmetic prepares for eyelashes " dinged by the USPTO for being misspelled last August. Now, Jade's team must amend these applications once more within six months. But given how the drama around this scandal continues to unfold, and how both Sephora and Tresemmé have dropped their deals with her, Jade and her team may have a lot more urgent matters on their plate to address before getting back to the USPTO.

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Brené Brown On Scammers, Astrology & Influencer Culture

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Listening to Brené Brown, PhD, LCSW, speak is kind of like going to church — and that's one reason why her iconic TED talk about vulnerability has been viewed more than 38 million times. Back in 2010, when Dr. Brown's initial speech went viral, the themes of courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy struck a chord with audiences. Now nine years later, people still quote her talk like gospel, although the world is a much different place.

On April 19, even more audiences will get to experience this wisdom through her Netflix Special, The Call To Courage. "I had this longstanding two-decade old goal of starting a global conversation about vulnerability, shame, courage," Dr. Brown tells Refinery29. "[The Netflix special] seemed like an amazing opportunity to do that, and I'm a fan, so it seemed like the right partner, and an opportunity that was just indescribably good." The Netflix Special covers the key concepts that Dr. Brown is known for, as well as connection, gratitude, and joy, all infused with the charisma and Texan humor that people love her for.

Ahead, Dr. Brown told Refinery29 what she thinks of astrology and our cultural obsession with scammers, plus gives advice about how you can answer the "call to courage" when the world is a shit show.

At Refinery29, we talk a lot about astrology. Our readers seem to like it for a few reasons: it gives us answers about our increasingly confusing world, and it feels more welcoming than most mainstream religions. Are you into astrology, or do you see it as something that tries to "make the uncertain certain"?

"It's funny that you ask that, because I recently did my enneagram. I've never really understood the allure of astrology, to be honest with you, but after I did the enneagram. I was like, I want this to explain everything. I want this to give me answers, I want this to give me insight, I want this to give me parameters about how to make choices. I think there is something very powerful, especially when the culture around us feels like a shit show so often, there's something so seductive about any system that can make sense of that for us.

"To not be interested in that is unheard of. People do this in different ways: people use theology, astrology, enneagrams, science — we all use something. We have to have a scaffolding, like a taxonomy, a place to file things to make sense. Astrology is just one of those things, and I don't ever really doubt that there are kernels of truth or grains of wisdom in a lot of these things. There are probably kernels and grains across those things, just explained with different metaphors. I think people want to give some order to things, I just think you have to be super careful."

The more we feel a loss of control in our environment and culture, the more we want to understand the drivers for thinking and behaving in emotion. In chaos, we want order; we want to understand how it all works.

How do we heed the call to courage when culture feels so polarizing and bad all of the time?

"We have to stay grounded. This is the way I think about it: There are 350 million things that need to change for us to take care of the Earth, and take care of each other — but that doesn’t mean I'm responsible for 350 million of them. That means, I have to show up in my life in a way everyday, and make choices that back up my beliefs. Even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it’s hard, even when it’s easier to pretend that my small choice doesn’t matter, I have to be responsible for maybe 100 of those out of the 350 million. What happens is that we get overwhelmed by what needs to change, so we say, screw it, and don't change anything. What we need is a collective, critical, group of people showing up in different ways every day that will change the world.

"I think our personal goal should not be to change the world. It can be changed the way I show up in the world, and change everything that I do that's within what I can do. We have to be joyful, we have to practice gratitude, we need to lean into joy, we need to lean into love. Those are the things a lot of us who are activists are fighting for ourselves, and that's important part of activism, too. It keeps us from burning out."

On that same note, it seems like everyone is obsessed with stories about scammers right now — whether it's Elizabeth Holmes, the college admissions scandal, Fyre Festival, or the president. Given your research on shame, do you have any clue where this comes from?

"I find myself reading them, too. I think it shines a light on a lot of things. We just probably feel better about ourselves when we see the lengths to which other people will go to be famous, or liked, or revered. In some ways, it sort of puts our own craziness in perspective. It's so helpful to see behaviors on a continuum. While I'm not way out here pretending to be somebody that I'm not, and forging, and being an imposter, I have on occasion not been myself to whatever people I think are important to me. I'm not so sure that we don't see a part of ourselves in it, and say, That's so extreme, but at least I'm better than that.

"The more we feel a loss of control in our environment and culture, the more we want to understand the drivers for thinking and behaving in emotion. In chaos, we want order; we want to understand how it all works. It's weird, our obsession with this crime stuff, and imposter stuff, and the darkness."

My advice to everyone who’s dating, or with friends, or colleagues is: You share your story with people who earn the right to hear it.

I think a lot of people conflate vulnerability with social media use. What do you think about the ethics of influencer culture?

"We have a new medium for it, which is Instagram and social media, but I think as long as there's been aspirational culture — the aspiration for wealth and fame — influencers have always been a thing. Social media is a new [medium for them].

"I really feel convinced that it’s like fire. It’s like, you can use fire and warmth to save your life, and you can use it to burn down the whole thing. You can’t blame fire, because without it we wouldn’t have food, warmth, and the industrial revolution. It's about usage, and about the intention behind the usage. What people don't do on social media — influencers, me, everybody — is, we don't examine our intention behind our posts. We don't say to ourselves, What am I trying to do here? What do I need from this? If your answer is, I don't need a damn thing from this, then you're ready to post. But if you need something from it, it’s super dangerous, because basic psychology is, don't set a goal for yourself where you can’t control the outcome.

"I always say, you're ready to share something when the response back makes no difference to your healing or self-worth. If your self-worth and healing, especially if you're sharing something vulnerable, is dependent on the likes, the comments, and the shares, you are without question sharing for the wrong reason."

What about with online dating? So many people use apps to meet people, but then struggle to dig deep and get vulnerable with a random person who could ghost them.

"Here’s the thing: These are not connection tools, these are communication tools. Communication tools can be great, but connection doesn’t happen until we are together — that's the first distinction. The second is, the thing about vulnerability and trust is that people always want to know, what comes first? I don't want to be vulnerable until I trust you, but can I really trust you if I'm not vulnerable with you? It's a slow stacking over time that builds.

I always say, you're ready to share something when the response back makes no difference to your healing or self-worth.

"Basically, trust is, I share something with you that's vulnerable to me, and you protect it. My advice to everyone who’s dating, or with friends, or colleagues is: You share your story with people who earn the right to hear it. Share your story in relationships that can bear the weight of the story. If the story is light, then most relationships can bear it. If the story is heavy, who deserves to hear it?

"We talk about the metaphor as, trust is a marble jar, and people earn marbles by trust-earning behaviors: you call me back, you pick up the phone, I tell you something, and you answer empathically and reserving judgment. We share heavy, hard things with marble jar friends, we don't share heavy, hard things with friends who have no marbles in the jar. So, we build marbles in the jar, and once it's full it's a heavier, fuller jar, and it can bear bigger stories. But in online dating, the connection happens in-person, and that's where you build trust and start the slow stacking of trust and vulnerability."

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4 R29ers Reveal The Outfits That Make Them Feel Like They Can Conquer Anything

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Once upon a (cliché) time, "power suit" was the only fashion phrase associated with feeling confident. Don't get us wrong, we love a structured gingham jacket and matching tailored pant moment, but it's far from the only look that makes us feel like we run the place. In fact, these days, it's the pieces in which we're the most comfortable that make us feel like we can conquer the world. (Or, at least, our spiraling inboxes.) And what comfort looks like might differ completely from one person to the next: a sheer maxi-dress with combat boots versus boyfriend jeans and a tie-dye tank. Tomato, tomahto, ya know?

Curious to see what this comfort-confidence complex looks like within our own walls, we asked four R29ers — all with completely different style vibes — to wax poetic about the looks that make them feel like total badasses. If the following outfits tell us anything, it's that comfort really is king when it comes to owning your space. From no-fuss jeans paired with a sloggi bodysuit that lets you get through the day without having to worry about your top coming untucked to an all-neutral ensemble that allows you to go wild with funky accessories, check out the ensembles that have us walking into the room with nothing to prove.

"In my day-to-day style, I like to add a twist to simple silhouettes and timeless pieces by incorporating unique prints and bold colors into my looks. I feel like my best self when I'm both put together and comfortable, so I often top off my look with sneakers or platform booties and minimal gold jewelry." —Jane Pryzant, assistant photo editor



sloggi Zero Feel Bralette, $38, available at Nordstrom

sloggi Zero Feel Tanga, $12, available at Nordstrom

Ganni Trekking Weave Jacket, $350, available at Ganni

Ganni Trekking Weave Shorts, $170, available at Ganni

Urban Outfitters Crossbody 3.0 Sling Bag, $25, available at Urban Outfitters

Zara Athletic Platform Sandals, $59.9, available at Zara

"I often turn to high-waisted tailored trousers paired with neutral block heels and an interesting top. I tend to keep to a more neutral or earthly color palette overall and like to incorporate one 'weird' color via unique earrings or a neckerchief." Megan West, creative director



sloggi Zero Feel Bralette, $38, available at Nordstrom

Mango Striped bow blouse, $59.99, available at Mango

& Other Stories High Waisted Wool Blend Pants, $129, available at & Other Stories

Everlane The Form Mini Bag - Bone, $190, available at Everlane

Vagabond Shoemakers Eve Pump, $129.94, available at Nordstrom

"Nothing makes me feel more comfortable and confident than pairing a great pair of jeans with a bodysuit. What I love most about a bodysuit is how flattering it looks on my body without all of the fuss of a normal top that can easily get untucked. Bodysuits are also a great day-to-night piece that can bring you from casual to dressy with a bold lip and a leather jacket or blazer." —Lilac Perez, associate casting director



sloggi S by Sloggi Symmetry Bodysuit, $38.4, available at Nordstrom

Topshop Dirty Mid Blue Crop Wide Leg Jeans, $68, available at Topshop

Zara Rustic Jacket, $69.9, available at Zara

Loeffler Randall Penny Knot Mule, $395, available at Loeffler Randall

Laura Lombardi Gold Anima Earrings, $130, available at SSENSE

"When I want to feel confident and comfortable, my go-to look is a well-tailored dress paired with a chunky sneaker or boot. I love a classic, feminine silhouette and a more structured, rugged shoe that is not a heel to play up both sides of my personality. I like to experiment with bold prints and keep accessories super simple, especially in the summer." —Melissa Killian, group director, marketing & client services



sloggi Zero Feel Bralette, $38, available at Nordstrom

Les Rêveries Floral-print cotton-jersey midi dress, $425, available at Net-A-Porter

Dr. Martens Jadon 8 Eye Boots, $170, available at Shopbop

Treasure & Bond Luca Grainy Leather Backpack, $179, available at Nordstrom

Le Specs Meteor Amour Black Rose, $129, available at Le Specs

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Olivia Jade Could Face Jail Time For College Cheating Scandal, Expert Says

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On Tuesday, the U.S. Attorney's Office in Massachusetts added money laundering charges to the indictment against actress Lori Loughlin and her husband Mossimo Giannulli for their role in the college admissions scam, dubbed "Operation Varsity Blues" by the FBI. With the updated charges, the couple could face up to 20 years in prison.

Now speculation has begun about the potential legal exposure facing the children involved in the scam, including Loughlin and Gianulli's influencer daughter, Olivia Jade.

Some of the parents involved have been adamant that their children were not aware of any criminal activity. While giving an emotional statement after accepting a plea deal for paying $15,000 to boost her daughter's SAT scores, Felicity Huffman told the court, "My daughter knew absolutely nothing about my actions, and in my misguided and profoundly wrong way, I have betrayed her."

But some reports have indicated that Olivia Jade was aware of her parent's plan to pay as much as $500,000 in bribes to gain admission to USC for her and her sister, Isabella. A source told People that the influencer would have “never gone along with it if she thought this would happen” and “blames her parents for everything.”

And things might be getting worse.

Refinery29 spoke with William Moran, an attorney who specializes in crisis management at the Otterbourg firm. He explained that the additional charges brought against Olivia Jade's parents on Tuesday are part of a familiar pattern for prosecutors. Loughlin and Giannulli were given an opportunity to plead guilty, as Huffman and 13 other defendants did, but chose not to. Prosecutors will now begin to seek further evidence for a trial – and this is where Olivia Jade could find herself in trouble.

"The more time that passes, however, the more likely it is that the prosecutor will bring pressure by seeking to interview the children as part of the evidence," says Moran. "If Olivia Jade knew and participated, she could face criminal liability. As long as charges against the parents are pending, the children are still vulnerable."

Olivia Jade faces her own particular set of problems because her various business ventures, including trademarking beauty products, depend on her visibility. Moran explained that if she speaks out to the media, she risks unintentional self-incrimination and potential damage to her brand.

"Right now, she's not doing a very good job of protecting herself," says Moran.

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Imagine A World Where All This Ariana Grande Merch Is Yours

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When you think of Ariana Grande, what comes to mind? The Mean Girls -inspired Thank U, Next video? Pete Davidson with a lollipop in his mouth? The Billboard charts literally crumbling under the weight of her ponytail? Check, check, check! Love her or hate her, there's no denying that Ariana Grande has had one hell of a year — and we're barely four months in. Her next move? Headlining Coachella.

So to emotionally (and physically) prepare for a night in the desert with Ariana Grande herself, we've rounded up all the best Sweetener, Thank U, Next and God Is A Woman merch to buy up before Day 3's grand finale performance. With the tie-dye tees, neon hoodies and oversized bombers ahead, all you'll need to re-create your favorite Ariana Grande looks are a pair of her ubiquitous over-the-knee boots and a certain bleach-headed boy to walk by your side (or more likely, six of your bitches).

Find all the best Ariana Grande merch in the slideshow above, just in time for Coachella.

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Texas Lawmakers Advance Bill That Could Make Abortions Punishable By Death

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A total abortion ban criminalizing the procedure and classifying it as a homicide cleared a committee Tuesday and will now be debated at the Texas House of Representatives. If House Bill 896 becomes law, abortion could carry penalties ranging from a state jail felony to a capital felony, and patients who seek the procedure could in theory be punished with the death penalty.

The legislation, also known as the Abolition of Abortion Act, was introduced by Republican state Rep. Tony Tinderholt. The measure, which he also sponsored in 2017 before it died in committee, stipulates that embryos have the same rights as a "human child" starting at the moment of conception.

The bill alters Texas' penal code, eliminating the exception for abortions from the definition of criminal homicide. Therefore, everyone involved in providing abortion care — from physicians and nurses to patients seeking this type of care — would face murder charges. HB896 makes no exceptions for rape, incest, or cases where the women's life is in danger. Tinderholt also proposed the legislation would be enforced "regardless of any contrary federal law, executive order, or court decision," which would go directly against Roe v. Wade.

Texas has historically been ground zero for attacks on access to abortion care. The state already bans abortions after 21.6 weeks, requires women to wait 24 hours between receiving mandatory counseling on abortion care and undergoing the procedure, restricts the use of telemedicine to obtain abortion medication, among several other regulations. Texas was also at the center of the U.S. Supreme Court battle over House Bill 2 (HB2), a measure which led to the closure of about two dozen of the 44 clinics in the state. The court struck down the law in 2016, but the damage was done.

HB896 follows a troubling trend of total abortion bans introduced in states such as Alabama, Oklahoma, and Ohio — all which could potentially make the procedure punishable by life in prison or the death penalty. This type of extreme anti-abortion legislation is becoming increasingly common across the nation, since anti-choice lawmakers and activists are betting on the conservative majority of the Supreme Court to undermine or overturn Roe. This year alone, over a dozen of states have introduced measures to ban abortion once a fetal heartbeat is detected — which usually occurs at six weeks of pregnancy. In the past, these bans, which are unconstitutional due to Planned Parenthood v. Casey, mostly existed on the fringes. Now, they are being introduced and considered at an unprecedented rate. In total, more than 250 abortion restrictions aimed at limiting access to this type of reproductive care have been introduced at the state level since January.

"States ... are primed to pursue abortion bans since they have already adopted a slew of abortion restrictions designed to make it hard for patients to access services and for providers to keep their doors open," Elizabeth Nash, senior state issues manager at Guttmacher Institute, previously told Refinery29. "The only restrictions left to enact are bans."

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Unequal Paychecks Aren't The Only Issue Facing Women Of Color

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Every day across the U.S., workers get up and go to work to make a living. And yet, as we were reminded this past Equal Pay Day, not everyone is making the same amount for the same work.

As it stands, women in the U.S. still make an estimated 80 cents for every dollar men earn. For women of color, the numbers are starker. Black women only make about 63 cents to a white man's dollar, and Latinas make just 53 cents. Some estimates are even lower, suggesting that women on average make just 49 cents for every dollar a man makes when taking into account earnings across a 15-year period.

This inequality is often discussed in terms of wages — after all, earnings discrepancies are the most glaring — but these imbalances manifest in many other forms. In fact, wages are just the tip of the iceberg, according to a new research study conducted by Brandeis University and The Workers Lab.

The report, just out today, is titled "Not Only Unequal Paychecks: Occupational Segregation, Benefits, and the Racial Wealth Gap," and it takes a deep dive into the many ugly truths of occupational segregation and benefits disparities in the workforce. In addition to analyzing long-established trends — such as the lack of Black and Latinx employees in STEM positions and high-paying fields — the report also takes a look at how segregation has evolved throughout history to benefit white workers and disadvantage workers of color. Dr. Carmen Rojas, founder and CEO of The Workers Lab, is an expert on workers' rights and financial systems and wants to raise awareness about how deep these inequalities run.

“We know that there is a deep connection between wages and wealth, but rarely do we highlight the passive systems of wealth accumulation that continue to rob Black and Latin[x] workers of the stability that should come from hard work,” says Dr. Rojas, adding that the most notable system is the racialization of workplace benefits, such as retirement and healthcare. Dr. Rojas adds that one-third of compensation comes from these benefits. “Since Black and Latin[x] workers are concentrated in low-wage and low-earning industries, they are not able to fully enjoy or participate in the benefits that allow for stability.”

The study examined five key industries, finding that nearly two-thirds of Latinxs work in the lower-paying restaurant and construction jobs that offer few or no benefits to employees. When it comes to pension benefits, Black and Latinx workers miss out on $5,600 and $9,800, respectively, while denial of healthcare coverage robs these groups of $2,700 and $5,400, respectively. The research also suggests that even when working people of color do enter higher-compensated fields, they still face gaps in pay and substantial differences in financial security when compared to their white counterparts.

The study found that these troubling racial and ethnic disparities will continue unabated until proactive policy interventions are enacted. "Policymakers, unions, advocacy groups, and employers all have key roles to play in generating and enhancing work to wealth connections by promoting labor and social policies that support fair compensation, access to insurance, and appropriate savings opportunities for employees," the study concludes.

Ultimately, work is a fundamental part of life and society, and it should lead to economic security. But until policymakers, businesses, unions, and advocates commit to fighting on these issues and improving the conditions for workers in this country, these circumstances aren’t likely to change.

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Little Is A Funny, Fabulous Celebration Of Black Women, Big and Small

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“You went to bed grown, and you woke up little? That’s for white people, ‘cause Black people don’t have the time.”

Those words, delivered with gleeful panache by Issa Rae in Little, sum up exactly what makes this movie different from the many beloved iterations of the body switch trope: the protagonists are not white. In most other respects, Little fits in right alongside the likes of 13 Going On 30, Big, 17 Again, and Freaky Friday. And that’s part of the appeal. Following in the footsteps of recent successes like Crazy Rich Asians, To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before, and Black Panther, Little upgrades a classic genre by placing people of color in a familiar narrative. It’s groundbreaking because we’ve seen it so many times before — just not quite like this.

The film opens in 1993, when a young Jordan Sanders (Marsai Martin) takes the stage at the Windsor Middle School talent show, hoping to break through into the popular clique. Bullied by her peers, she instead lands in the hospital, vowing that when grown up, she’ll never let anyone take advantage of her again. Fast-forward to the present, and now-38-year-old Jordan (Regina Hall) is the high-powered CEO of a tech company in Atlanta. She’s got it all: hot artist boyfriend (Luke James), penthouse apartment with floor-to-ceiling windows and city views, a closet that even Kylie Jenner would envy. She’s also a borderline sociopath, a bully hated by her staff, her neighbors, and most of all, her assistant, April (Issa Rae). But when an encounter with a budding Black girl magician turns her 13 again, she must come to terms with herself in a way she never has before.

Marsai Martin, who famously pitched the concept for the film when she was 10 years old and has an executive producing credit, crackles as Little Jordan. Forced to return to middle school, the scene of her formative trauma, she toggles between the breathless apprehension of any kid who doesn’t quite fit in, and the swishy confidence of a woman who has the world at her feet. Her chemistry with Rae, whose hilarious April must pose as Jordan’s guardian for the duration of the spell, is electric. Hall, meanwhile, goes full Cruella De Ville as grown-up Jordan. Her actions sometimes go beyond those of a mean boss: This woman would skin puppies.

But it’s the little things (pun very much intended) that make Little feel truly unique. Director Tina Brown told Refinery29 earlier this year that she was committed to having Black female creators represented throughout the film, and those details shine through, from the art displayed throughout Jordan’s apartment and company, to an Alexa-like “Homegirl” prototype voiced by Tracee Ellis Ross. Even the wine sipped by April and Jordan comes from Black female-owned wineries.

Fashion is integral to the body switch genre — think back to Jenna’s first encounter with 30-year-old her’s closet in 13 Going On 30. And here too, Little innovates. Costume designer Danielle Hollowell emphasized Black designers like Virgil Abloh, Carly Cushnie, and Brother Vellies’ Aurora James, giving Adult Jordan, Little Jordan and April their own, very specific styles. (That pink pantsuit! That gold skirt! The many color-blocked heels! Gimme all of it!)

The script by Gordon and Tracy Oliver is a little more uneven, A couple of jokes— one at the expense of a plus-size woman, the other suggesting a little girl looks like she’s transitioning — don’t quite land. Little doesn’t need to go low — it has far better material to work with. Overall, the film transcends when it taps into its own power of representation. One scene, in which Little Jordan and April embark on an impromptu karaoke rendition of Mary J. Blige’s “I’m Going Down” in a fancy restaurant filled with mostly white patrons, is particularly effective. Meanwhile, the impact of seeing a company employing many people of color in high-power positions — rather than in solitary, token diversity roles — is a refreshing step forward.

But though Little thrives on specificity, its themes are universal. Being a teenager isn’t easy. And though most of the scenes are played for laughs, the movie never downplays the plight of those who are marginalized by others for looking, sounding or feeling different. Martin’s fellow middle-school misfit co-stars, Tucker Meek, JD McCrary, and Thalia Tran, are heart-achingly earnest, in the best possible sense, which will prompt even the iciest adult to care about their plight. (And yes, This Is Us ’ Justin Hartley does make an appearance as a hot teacher, although he doesn’t get nearly as much screen time as you’d think judging from the film’s promos.)

All in all, Little is a welcome addition to the canon. And if someone has a tip on where to find a matching pink pantsuit, my inbox is open.

“Little” celebrates Black women, from the actors onscreen to the team behind the camera to the costume design. Support the film, which comes out April 12, with the hashtag #Ladies4Little.

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Why The Child Ear-Piercing Policy At Claire's Is Under Fire Right Now

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There are thousands, perhaps millions, of people across North America whose ears are pierced because they sat in a chair at Claire’s, nervously clinging to their best friend, parent, guardian, or a lucky person willing to hold their hand while they endured the slightly painful procedure of having a metal rod impale their earlobes. Claire’s has pierced over 100 million ears around the world in four decades, to be exact.

Getting your ears pierced may seem innocuous and pedestrian — a basic rite of passage — but this week, the act has started a nationwide conversation about children and consent.

32-year-old Raylene Marks of Alberta, Canada, quit her job at one of Claire’s Edmonton-area stores over the accessories chain’s ear-piercing policy. In a widely shared Facebook post, Marks wrote “An Open Letter to Claire’s Corporate” detailing a situation in which she refused to pierce the ears of a seven-year-old girl, who “made it clear she no longer wanted to get her ears pierced.” Marks and her colleague were supposed to do a “double” on the girl, an internal Claire’s term for piercing both ears at the same time. Marks wrote that the girl cried and loudly stated that she “didn't want us touching her, that we were standing too close, that she was feeling uncomfortable.”

“I'm inclined to respect a child's right to say, ‘NO,’ to any adult forcing any kind of non-medical contact on them, so I told the other piercer I wouldn't be part of the ear piercing for this girl,” Marks wrote. Eventually, the girl and her mother left without going through with the piercing.

The next day, Marks says that when she told her manager about the situation, she was told if the mother had insisted on doing the procedure, Marks “would have had no choice but to do it."

"So if a mother is physically restraining her daughter, holding her down and saying, 'DO IT,' while that little girl cries and asks me not to, do I do the piercing?" Marks says she hypothesized to her manager. The response, according to Marks, was, "Yes, you do the piercing."

Marks quit the same day. In her Facebook post, which has over 7,300 likes and close to 500 comments, Marks wrote, “I cannot be part of a company that teaches a child that their right to say, ‘NO,’ to invasive non-medical contact can be so easily overridden by an adult.”

In her post, Marks challenged Claire’s to change their policies to include better guidance on piercing children. She refers to the company’s Policy 509, which states: “When a child is resisting the ear piercing, politely suggest to the parent that perhaps it would be better to perform the ear piercing on another day and/or when two associates are available to perform a ‘double’ piercing. We reserve the right to refuse to perform an ear piercing if a successful one cannot be done.”

Marks believes the policy is “deeply flawed” and “helps facilitate situations where children can be traumatized or otherwise subject to forms of intimidation and abuse in-store.”

When reached for comment, a Claire’s representative told Refinery29 that it is investigating the incident and that it will be reviewing the company policy. The representative said Marks “acted appropriately and in line with our policy by refusing to do the piercing,” though Marks says she was told otherwise when she contacted the employee relations line after quitting.

Since her post went viral, Claire’s sent Marks a personal message, saying: “We can appreciate how the last sentence of the policy could be misconstrued, and we thank you for bringing this to our attention. However, we assure you that the intention of the policy is absolutely that we reserve the right the refuse to pierce if a child is distressed or resisting the piercing.”

Marks is pleased Claire’s is now backing her up. “It really demonstrates what happens when you put something in the hands of the public to decide,” Marks says. “It’s very possible that [Claire’s] caved under public pressure.”

Marks says she’s shocked the letter has garnered such widespread attention. “I think this issue speaks to a child’s right to consent and to anyone who has endured any childhood trauma, to anyone who has had a bad ear piercing, and to anyone who has worked in any of these Claire’s locations.”

This story was originally published on Refinery29 Canada.

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California Tried To Ban 20 Questionable Ingredients From Cosmetics — & Failed

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In California, a proposed bill to make the use of makeup and personal-care products safer for consumers has failed to proceed.

The number of chemicals banned or restricted from use in beauty and personal-care products in the European Union stands at around 1,400. In the United States, that number is roughly 11. Despite that staggering fact, when the time came for a vote on the Toxic-Free Cosmetics Act within the state's Environment, Safety, and Toxic Materials Committee this week, the bill — which was set to be discussed on April 23 — stalled without enough votes to move to the Assembly Health Committee. Now, it's likely the bill won't be considered again for another year.

The bill targeted a list of 20 different potentially harmful ingredients — including asbestos, lead, mercury, formaldehyde, and some parabens and phthalates — to prohibit their use in cosmetics and personal-care products. According to the Los Angeles Times, backers of the bill hoped that, because of California's size and influence, passing the law would motivate the rest of the country when it comes to eliminating potentially dangerous ingredients in these products.

However, the $70 billion cosmetics industry has been fighting hard against the bill, arguing that there isn't enough scientific evidence to ban those particular chemicals — which have been coined "the toxic 20 " — and even offered free cosmetic samples to legislative staffers around the State Capitol.

This comes after U.S. Senators Dianne Feinstein (D-CA) and Susan Collins (R-ME) introduced the Personal Care Products Safety Act, which pushed for more transparency and to allow the FDA to oversee the safety of these products, in the U.S. Senate back in 2017. Though brands like Beautycounter have sent armies of sellers to Capitol Hill in support of this bill, that one hasn't gained any real traction either. But with organizations like the Environment Working Group — which has been playing watchdog for toxic ingredients for years — growing ever more popular, along with increased customer awareness, this is just the beginning of this fight to ensure that everything people are putting on their bodies in this country is certifiably safe.

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R29 Readers' Most-Wanted Wayfair Finds Are All On Sale Today

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The day we've been waiting for all week is finally here, and we aren't talking about Humpday: Wayfair just kicked off its biggest sale of the year and our home-shopping Spidey senses are tingling. Way Day is back by popular demand for its second annual installment, offering up to 80% off furniture to decor with free shipping across Wayfair and its curated sister sites (AllModern, Joss & Main, and Birch Lane). We're not only devoting our Wednesdays to monitoring the absolute best steals available on these stocked retailers, we're also tracking the most-wanted sale finds according to Refinery29 readers, too.

Ahead we've rounded up the top Wayfair goods purchased by our audience since Way Day's initial debut back in 2018 that are all currently on mega-sale. From the ever-popular memory foam pillow to best-selling boho area rug, insanely affordable hall-tree, and most-stylish platform bed, these 15 home buys tote rave-reviews from Wayfair customers AND R29 readers alike. Scroll on to shop these steals and more before the big event ends in 36 hours (and counting) — happy home-hunting.

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#1 Memory Foam Pillow

Deal: 80% off
This hypoallergenic pillow is filled with cooling shredded memory foam for firm yet soft sleep-support.

Reviews: 4.5 out of 5 stars and 6,220 reviews on Wayfair
"THE most comfortable pillow I've ever slept on. It has ruined all other pillows for me."



Alwyn Home Memory Foam Pillow, $19.97, available at Wayfair

#2 Boho Area Rug

Deal: 73% off
Chic and stain-resistant, this super-soft and fan-favorite area rug was power-loomed in Turkey.

Reviews: 4.8 out of 5 stars and 237 reviews on Wayfair
"This rug is amazing! And it shipped sooner then planned. It’s the perfect amount of brightness I needed for my living room. The texture is also on point."



CosmoLiving by Cosmopolitan Moroccan Nasiba Tribal Ivory Area Rug, 8'x10', $108.02, available at Wayfair

#3 Down-Alternative Mattress Topper

Deal: 73% off
This top-selling mattress topper is crafted with a baffle-box construction, pure cotton cover, and elastic corner bands for extra sleep-security.

Reviews: 4.6 out of 5 stars and 3,261 reviews on Wayfair
"Spent a lot of time researching mattress toppers. Wayfair had a great selection and price variation. Good descriptions of products. Decided to purchase the 3" down alternative topper. It was a great price for a king size. Arrived within 3 days of order and I appreciated the emails regarding the shipment progress. The topper is definitely thick and very comfortable. I love that it has straps to hold it in place and that they are thicker than normal. This topper does not settle much so does not need refluffing all the time. Very pleased with purchase. Close alternative to very expensive down toppers. Pros: Price, thickness, hold in place straps, comfort, Cons: None"



The Twillery Co. Trahan 3" Down Alternative Polyester Mattress Topper, $81.99, available at Wayfair

#4 Tripod Floor Lamp

Deal: 36% off
This top-bought floor lamp is constructed with a simple but elegant wooden tripod design.

Reviews: 4.6 out of 5 stars and 66 reviews on Wayfair
"Superb light and absolutely gorgeous, I'd buy 5 of them if I had use for it!"



Mack & Milo Kaleb 61.5" 1-Light Tripod Floor Lamp, $76, available at Wayfair

#5 Wooden Bar Cart

Deal: 62% off
This rustic yet chic industrial piece comes equipped with multi-shelf storage capabilities for containing your every apartment bar need.

Reviews: 4.4 out of 5 stars and 585 reviews on Wayfair
"Nice, solid, heavy pieces of wood! The laminate is beautiful and even has texture like real wood grain! As an interior designer, I would say this is a great quality laminate and pretty realistic! The color was spot on to the picture on this site. It was pretty easy to put together for anyone who's got a little experience putting together furniture - just make sure each piece is going in the correct direction. I loved that the two wine rack shelves were reversible - with one side flat for general storage and one side with the grooves for wine bottles."



Mercury Row Comet Kitchen Cart with Wooden Top, $133.99, available at Wayfair

#6 Platform Bed

Deal: 31% off
This MCM-style bed frame is sleekly crafted from a solid wood frame and smooth linen upholstery.

Reviews: 4.7 out of 5 stars and 2,062 on Wayfair
"We love our new bed! It came in 2 boxes and we put it together in an hour. It was easy to assemble and we were very pleased with the quality and craftsmanship. Such a great price too! We've been sleeping on it for over a week and the slats are great and don't squeak like our old Ikea platform bed. Love the legs. Beautiful and stylish!! So happy!!"



Langley Street Rasmussen Upholstered Platform Bed, $399.5, available at Wayfair

#7 Persian Area Rug

Deal: 84% off
The Persian-inspired design paired with the beautiful blue hues in this affordable area rug make it a top-bought no-brainer.

Reviews: 4.6 out of 5 stars and 312 reviews on Wayfair
"Beautiful, vibrant colors. I was pleasantly surprised by how plush it feels underfoot. We unrolled it and it flattened right out. Love this rug! Another home run Wayfair!!"



Lark Manor Amhurst Dark Blue Area Rug, $71.46, available at Wayfair

#8 Sheet Set

Deal: 58% off
Get back to top-purchased bedding basics with this fitted to flat sheet and multi-pillowcase set.

Reviews: 4.7 out of 5 stars and 5,863 reviews on Wayfair
"I absolutely love this set! It's really soft and comfortable. I have a memory foam topper on my mattress and usually have a rough time finding sheets to fit it. This fits with give room. Also I love that it comes with 4 pillow cases! Finally, all of my pillows match! I am buying another set soon, will never buy a different sheet set as long as these are available. 100% worth the money."



Laurel Foundry Eldon Solid Sheet Set, $25.1, available at Wayfair

#9 Velvet Sofa

Deal: 59% off
Invest in a more luxurious living room with this stylish, vibrant, and reader-favorite anchor piece.

Reviews: 4.7 out of 5 stars and 1,517 reviews on Wayfair
"I am obsessed with this couch! It's exactly what I was looking for - it's extremely comfortable, the material is soft and luxurious, and it's long enough for a 6'6'' man to lay down with his legs stretched out. I love the mid-century vibe and the price was mind-blowingly cheap. I had been eyeing the Article Sven couch and this is SUCH a good dupe! Very, very pleased."



Mistana Derry Sofa, $557.99, available at Wayfair

#10 Entryway Hall Tree

Deal: 29% off
This entryway organizer is an R29 reader's choice for solving any closet-less small-space dilemmas.

Reviews: 4.3 out of 5 stars and 1,198 reviews on Wayfair
"I needed something small and simple to hang coats for my hallway entrance (its not very big but theres no closet). This was perfect! Super quick and easy to put together. Also looks very nice, and surprisingly sturdy. I was worried about that considering the price, but was very surprised how great it has turned out to be."



Honey Can Do Entryway Storage Coat Rack, $66.99, available at Wayfair

#11 Compact TV Console

Deal: 48% off
This mid-century modern media console is crafted from smooth wood in a compact design that's perfect for tight quarters.

Reviews: 4.1 out of 5 stars and 426 reviews on Wayfair
"Awesome stand! It was perfect for my small apartment and has a nice modern look. It was very sturdy and held our 40" TV up without a problem, along with all the other items I placed in the drawers/sockets. Absolutely recommend for anyone looking for a nice stand that won't break the bank!"



Langley Street Park View TV Stand, $88.03, available at Wayfair

#12 Storage Coffee Table

Deal: 66% off
Make the most of your living space with this top-bought, distressed-wood coffee table that wields a dual-storage punch.

Reviews: 4.8 out of 5 stars and 5,139 reviews on Wayfair
"Beautiful table...looks great in our living room. It's sturdy and well built in addition to being stylish. Looks just like the picture."



Trent Austin Design Kinsella Coffee Table, $147.99, available at Wayfair

#13 Earthenware Dinner Set

Deal: 67% off
This spring-essential dinnerware set comes R29 reader-approved with 16 pieces of white to red clay earthenware pieces.

Reviews: 4.7 out of 5 stars and 1,173 reviews on Wayfair
"Absolutely love this set right out of the box. Great color! Each piece is a little bit different and they have a great weight to them. Can not wait to have our first housewarming party."



Mint Pantry Valia 16 Piece Full Set, Service for 4, $39.99, available at Wayfair

#14 Stylish Loveseat

Deal: 42% off
This stylish sofa is built for small spaces with its slender wooden frame and cozy-compact structure.

Reviews: 4.8 out of 5 stars and 275 reviews on Wayfair
"I LOVE this loveseat. It comfortably sits 2 people without feeling like you are right on top of each other. Typically mid century furniture in this style is really firm and not the most comfortable but this loveseat doesn’t fit that mold. It’s not only beautiful and has that classic mid century look it’s really comfy. I have gotten so many compliments on it. I highly recommend this piece. If you are thinking about it, just do it, you won’t regret it."



Langley Street Cambridge Loveseat, $262.37, available at Wayfair

#15 Wall-Mounted Wine Rack

Deal: 55% off
These dual racks are crafted from reclaimed wood with a grained finish and are equipped to hold your favorite bottles in addition to 15 pieces of stemware.

Reviews: 4.6 out of 5 stars and 730 reviews on Wayfair
"Absolutely love these shelves! I have a small kitchen and was looking for something to hang my wine glasses from and came across these beauties. So happy with my purchase. Love how rustic they are! Used the hardware that came with it and no problem at all. Would definitely recommend."



Bernon Rustic Wall Mounted Wine Glass Rack, $48.99, available at Wayfair

#16 Industrial Shelving

Deal: 53% off
Another reader favorite that's perfect for small apartments. When you don't have the floor space, it's always an option to install some easy shelving.

Reviews: 4.6 out of 5 stars and 463 reviews on Wayfair
"This shelves are so beautiful!! I REALLY love them. They are heavy and the brackets give me the industrial look I wanted. The wood is marred and it’s just beautiful to me. I would recommend these highly!!!"



Three Posts Industrial Grace Wall Shelf, $36.99, available at Wayfair

#17 A Really Good Knife Set

Deal: 77% off
The J.A. Henckels International knife block set was recently cited in our readers' favorite wedding gifts story. In the comments section we received a second and third motion on the durability of this purchase. And for a few hours only, you can score it here for the lowest price across the internet (we checked).

Reviews: 4.6 out of 5 stars and 427 reviews on Wayfair
"This knife set is the real deal. Exactly the knives I need for my kitchen. The block does take up quite a bit of room in my tiny kitchen so I’m storing it sideways. The knives have a great balance and the handles feel really comfortable in my hand."



J.A. Henckels International 12 Piece Knife Block Set, $60.99, available at Wayfair

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Best Wayfair Furniture On Sale For Way Day

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If you have yet to take a scroll through Wayfair's virtual aisles, then today is the day to do it: the stocked home site with daily deals on furniture to decor officially kicked off its second annual Way Day sale at noon. Lasting through tomorrow night, the super-sale will offer up to 80% off cross-category goods with free shipping on Wayfair, AllModern, Joss & Main, and Birch Lane — and we'll be tracking the absolute best discounts on all the must-shop furniture finds right here for the next 36 hours.

Since pulling the trigger on everything from couches to beds is a big deal, you may as well do it when you're actually getting a big deal too. Ahead we're rounding up the essentials in home investment and anchor pieces that are worth springing for while the sales and free-shipping last — from the plushest sectional sofas to stylish storage units, mixed-material tables, and much more.

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Velvet Accent Chair

This glamorous piece is making just as dramatic a style statement as it is with its 75%-off sale price tag.



Willa Arlo Interiors Roberta Armchair, $376.51, available at Wayfair

Minimalist Platform Bed

Crafted from a solid steel frame in a classic minimalist style, this simple but stylish platform frame is the epitome of less-is-more bedroom goals.



Zipcode Design Cyril Platform Bed (Queen), $108.99, available at Wayfair

Nesting Table Set

Utilize this metal-framed and wood-top set wherever you need the dual table space — and then stack them up wherever you don't.



Union Rustic Margolis 2 Piece Nesting Tables, $89.99, available at Wayfair

Beach-Glass Lamp

This glass-crafted lamp with its smooth white-fabric shade is ready to bless your bedside with serene beachy-vibes.



Beachcrest Home Barnwell 20" Table Lamp, $38.25, available at Wayfair

Geometric Console Table

Whether you use this geometrically-shaped console table as a TV stand, dresser, or bookshelf, its sleek and stylish aesthetic is sure to make a strong statement inside your space.



Mercury Row Goodlow Console Table, $172.99, available at Wayfair

Striped Armchair

This bright, blue-striped armchair blends a preppy-chic pattern with classic clean-lines for one refreshing spring aesthetic.



Birch Lane Bashir Armchair, $176.99, available at Wayfair

Two-Top Coffee Table

The mixed materials in this two-top, storage-savvy coffee table makes for a sharp and easily-blended living room anchor piece.



Williston Forge Nowak Coffee Table, $102.07, available at Wayfair

Storage Bench

The clean simplicity paired with dual-storage capabilities makes this bench a stylish small-space essential.



Charlton Home Warwickshire Wood Storage Bench, $101.33, available at Wayfair

Plush Sofa Bed

Meet the plush and stylish sofa-armchair that doubles as a pull out bed for housing guests in a pinch.



Novogratz Collection Brittany Sofa Bed, $337.99, available at Wayfair

Tray-Top Side Table

We love the versatility of this compact, wooden, and contemporary-style side table with its catchall tray-top.



Mercury Row Acevedo Tray Table, $45.99, available at Wayfair

Ladder-Shelf Bookcase

This slim yet stylish four-tiered shelving system is a small-space's dream.



Mercury Row Almanzar Ladder Bookcase, $54.84, available at Wayfair

A Sturdy Desk Chair

It might not be the prettiest or most innovative product on the shopping, but sometimes you just need a sturdy, comfy, wheely work chair. And you may as well buy this essential when it's on sale.



Zipcode Design Heath Ergonomic Task Chair, $100.99, available at Wayfair

Plush Sectional Sofa

This top-rated and solid-wood frame investment piece is ready to plush-up spaces from large to small with its streamlined-sectional frame.



Laurel Foundry Huckaby Blaxlands Sectional, $697.99, available at Wayfair

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The Gradient Manicure Is Everyone's Favorite Spring Accessory

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The next time you go to paint your nails, instead of choosing one solid color, why not bring 'em all to the party instead? The manicure trend you've probably already seen everywhere this spring is the polar opposite of monochrome: Each nail gets a different color, creating a tiny gradient on your fingertips.

Mix-and-match, ombré, simply gradient — whatever you want to call the trend, it's blowing up on Instagram right now. The best part is that anyone with opposable thumbs and five different bottles of polish can pull it off. Tenoverten nail pro Nadine Abramcyk tells us that the key to a cohesive multicolored manicure is to choose your polishes carefully. "I always recommend a range of shades in the same color family," she says. Paint each nail a different color, and you get a shade transition that feels purposefully mismatched.

From cool-toned neutrals to soft pink with glittery leopard spots on top, check out every way to wear spring's freshest, most unexpected, and surprisingly chic manicure trend, ahead.

Editorial manicurist-turned-jewelry designer Betina Goldstein — the trendsetter who brought us cuticle striping — calls this gradient "the green thumb." An array of soft greens and sunny yellows — like J.Hannah's Eames sage shade, Nails Inc Gen Yellow, and Lauren B's mossy Mandeville Maven — feels super fresh for spring.

Using Essie's new Serene Slate collection, Goldstein gives a lesson in how to artfully mix cool-toned neutrals.

Your transitional shades can be as contrasting as you like. These colors are all over the spectrum, but the two-toned striping across each finger ties it all together.

Create a dark-to-light spectrum by starting with glossy black on your pinky, blending into charcoal and slate gray in the middle, and ending in a soft dove shade at the thumb.

Why pick one single shade of nude polish when five different tones, one on each finger, look this gorgeous?

For two trends in one, add a spotted animal print — à la Kendall and Ariana — right on top of your pink-tone color gradient.

St. Patty's Day may have passed, but this green glitter ombré manicure just so happens to still be very on-trend.

Glitter color-blocking adds a fun textural element to a pastel -toned, multicolored mani.

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What To Wear When It’s Too Hot To Wear Anything

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Summer’s official start is coming up fast. And while the beloved vacation season brings short weeks, long weekends, and plenty of travel, it also brings everyone’s least favorite thing: some seriously scorching days. The kind where the temperature hovers dangerously close to the triple digits, and the air outside feels heavy and claustrophobic. On days like this, the thought of getting dressed is nothing short of unbearable, but sadly, it’s a task that must be completed if you want to leave the house.

To help you through the hardship of allowing fabric to touch your body on a swampy day, we compiled a list lightweight wardrobe staples that you can lean on when the mercury begins its cruel ascent. From linen coveralls and stylish athletic shorts to barely there slides, all of the essentials here are heavy on style while remaining light on coverage. Click through to see the 12 must-haves that will keep you as cool as possible while still ensuring that your look is fire.

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The Two-Piece Set

Don’t think of it as a top and a bottom — think of it as a very well-ventilated dress. It’s a great option for any occasion that requires you to look put together, even when it feels like every drop of moisture is leaving your body.



FP Beach Encinitas Set, $98, available at Free People

The Silk Tee

If you’d like to maintain a dressed-up feeling despite the scorching temps, cooling and breathable silk is your friend. A T-shirt silhouette is airy, casual, and lightweight, but still maintains its polish, thanks to an elevated fabrication.



Dusen Dusen Mask Tee, $98, available at Stature

The Swimwear-As-Bodysuit

On a day this hot, there’s probably a pool in your future, and because you’re a prepared person, you may be hitting the town with your swimsuit on under your clothes. There’s no need to put a top over your already top-like one-piece! Just choose a maillot that can double as a bodysuit and stay a little bit cooler than all of your overdressed friends.



Ashley Graham x Swimsuits For All Hotshot Striped Ribbed One Piece Swimsuit, $96, available at swimsuitsforall

The Lingerie Cami

If you simply must wear a shirt — yuck — make it a shirt that’s as close to underwear as possible. A light, lacy, lingerie-inspired camisole will do the trick without sacrificing any style whatsoever.



Eloquii Printed Cami with Lace Trim, $24.95, available at Eloquii

The Cotton-Poplin Tent Dress

Don’t freak out at the suggestion of a dress that has long sleeves — some of us just don’t like to show our arms, even on the hottest of days. We love the elegant polish of a shirting-inspired dress, and nothing says summer like fresh white cotton — especially when its embroidered with flowers. This tented silhouette will keep you super cool.



Fresh Cotton Clothing Embroidered Cotton Dress, $97, available at Etsy

The Athletic Short

The proliferation of chic, non-denim shorts is one of our favorite things about this upcoming summer. There are tons of elevated, athletic-style shorts in our favorite shops that look as comfortable as your go-to Soffes, without the “came from the gym” vibes.



Everlane The Easy Chino Short, $45, available at Everlane

The Linen ANYTHING, But In This Case, A Jumpsuit

We recommend any breathable linen items for sweltering moments, but we’re highlighting this perfectly tailored jumpsuit as our pick. It will help you look hot and stay cool.



Reformation Kass Jumpsuit, $198, available at Reformation

The Minimal Slides

Choose a slide sandal with a strap as slim as possible — they shouldn’t cover any more dermis than what’s required to keep your feet in place.



Nisolo Isla Slide Sandal, $88, available at Nisolo

The Loosity-Loose-Loose Mini Dress

Give your legs some air in a minimal cotton dress that barely touches your body.



Lacausa Farah Mini, $148, available at LACAUSA

The Breathable Pant

Just because the degrees are many doesn’t mean trousers are off-limits. You just have to find that perfectly calibrated trouser: supremely lightweight and palazzo-style in its silhouette. These swishy, elastic-waist Tencel loungers fit the bill perfectly.



Back Beat Rags Ochre Tencel Easy Pants, $92, available at Back Beat Rags

The Bra Top

Don’t cover your stomach when you don’t have to. Opt instead for a barely there bra top that leaves your midriff exposed and cool — just don’t forget to apply sunscreen.



Out From Under Drew Seamless Ribbed Bra Top, $18, available at Urban Outfitters

The Cotton Underpant

Well-ventilated underwear in a natural fabric is a must on a scorching day — it will prevent swampiness and keep any down-there problems at bay. If this ThirdLove pair is not to your liking, worry not — we recently published an entire roundup devoted to cotton drawers.



ThirdLove Pima Cotton Hipster, $12, available at ThirdLove

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The Best Waterproof Eyebrow Products, According To Makeup Artists

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When the humidity hits, it isn't just mascara and foundation that have a tendency to slip and slide. Whether you use gels, pencils, or pomades, brow makeup can often end up where it isn't supposed to, with neither your eyelids nor even your forehead safe from dubious smudges.

So what do you do when your makeup just isn't cutting it? Rethink the formula, of course. Waterproof ingredients are the basis of long-wearing, smudge-proof makeup — but it can be hard to find brow products that are easily workable, stay put through a sweaty commute, and come clean off with a swipe of micellar cleanser at the end of the day.

To make it easier, we enlisted some of the UK's best makeup artists to lift the lid on the most long-wearing, summer-ready brow products out there right now.

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"This pencil is amazing because it is slightly angled, so you get a very precise application with it. It's waterproof, so doesn't budge, and you can build the product up to make your brows look as natural or defined as you like. It's available in many shades for pretty much everyone. It's so easy to use, too. You just twist it up and go." — Abbey May, professional makeup artist



Benefit Cosmetics Goof Proof Brow Pencil Easy Shape & Fill, $24, available at Ulta Beauty

"This tint has a liquid felt-tip nib, which is great for defining, as well as a sponge on the opposite end to help blend and set the brows. It really allows you to create a more natural, long-lasting look. Plus, it's available in a great shade range, which is especially useful for those with much lighter brows." — May



MAC Cosmetics Shape + Shade Brow Tint, $22, available at Nordstrom

"This pencil is incredibly long-wearing. When defining your brows, work on the outer edges first to get the shape right, then mimic the hairs in the middle with soft strokes. If you start in the middle, it's often easy to go too dark or dense, and you'll likely have to start again." — Ruby Hammer MBE, makeup artist, beauty expert, and brand creator



Benefit Cosmetics Precisely, My Brow Pencil, $24, available at Nordstrom

"I love how thin this pencil is because it makes filling in gaps and mimicking each and every hair a very easy job. It's one of the few brow pencils that is actually oil-free, which helps the product last longer on the brows and skin." — Joy Adenuga, global makeup artist



HD Brows Browtec, $24.4, available at LookFantastic

"This gel color is a favorite of mine when working with brides that have very oily skin or tend to get a bit sweaty. I also love the shade range." — Adenuga



Benefit Cosmetics ka-BROW! Cream-Gel Eyebrow Color with Brush, $24, available at Sephora

"The nib on this pencil is thin but the texture is a little harder than most, which makes it easy to draw super fine strokes. The formula is also slightly waxy, so it stays where it is applied. I love the realistic shade range for all hair colors, too." — Kenneth Soh, celebrity and editorial makeup artist



Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Wiz, $21, available at Amazon

"This is an incredible product: It's smudge-proof, slide-proof and totally resistant to water. It's a really easy pencil to use and comes with a spoolie on the opposite end to brush and groom the brows as you define them." — Katie Daley, professional makeup artist



Urban Decay Brow Beater, $20, available at Urban Decay

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Teen Mother & Her Premature Newborn Neglected For A Week In Border Patrol Custody

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A premature newborn baby girl and her 17-year-old migrant mother were almost entirely ignored and neglected for an entire week while held by Border Patrol near the Texas border.

Lawyers who visited the immigration processing station in McAllen, TX, told HuffPost that the one-month-old infant was wrapped in a dirty towel and wore soiled clothing. The mother was severely underslept, wheelchair-bound, and unable to walk or lie down due to pain from an emergency C-section.

The baby was born in Mexico after the mother left Guatemala for the U.S. while eight months pregnant. Neither mother nor child has been publicly identified.

According to immigration and human rights attorney Hope Frye, the mother was taken to a hospital at least once for pain medication, but the baby had not received any medical care since being placed in Border Patrol custody.

Frye described the baby as “listless” to HuffPost.

“I looked at that baby and said, ‘Who does this to babies?’” Frye said. “They were being sadistically ignored.”

Frye said a colleague told her on Wednesday that the baby appeared weak and had not cried for hours. There were also concerns about the infant’s body temperature dropping, which could lead to health complications and even death. Medical experts have said Border Patrol facilities are not safe for children and babies, especially those susceptible to disease or medical complications.

HuffPost confirmed that the family was to be transferred to a resettlement facility on Thursday, days after they initially came into Border Patrol custody.

Federal law dictates that unaccompanied children in government custody are required to be released from Border Patrol custody to the Office of Refugee Resettlement within 72 hours. The 17-year-old mother and her baby are both considered minors.

Border Patrol facilities were designed to primarily hold single adult men and are not equipped to house families and children, per HuffPost. Government officials have repeatedly said they do not have the resources necessary to accommodate the influx of refugees heading to the border. Officials have even said the immigration system has reached its “breaking point,” according to The Washington Post.

Jess Morales Rocketto, chair of the Families Belong Together coalition, called for legislative action against the Trump administration’s anti-immigration agenda in the wake of this news.

“Time and time again, the Trump administration has shown that it doesn’t care about babies and children. We’ve already seen at least six migrant children die in this administration’s custody, and there are constant reports of babies still being kept in cages and dangerous health conditions for children and families in these de facto internment camps,” Rocketto said in a statement. “Republicans in Congress must answer for the public health and moral crisis that Trump is creating at the border.”

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A Week In Washington, D.C., On A $45,000 Salary

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Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.

Today: a project manager working in language services who makes $45,000 per year and spends some of her money this week on Gatorade.

Occupation: Project Manager
Industry: Language Services
Age: 29
Location: Washington, D.C.
Salary: $45,000
Paycheck Amount (2x/month): $1,370
Gender Identity: Woman

Monthly Expenses
Rent: $1,070 for one bedroom in a two-bedroom apartment that I share with one roommate, my dog, and her cat.
Student Loans: $0 (I went to an inexpensive school and worked or had scholarships to cover everything.)
Cell Phone: $50 for a prepaid service
Utilities: ~$140 for internet, gas, water, and electric
Netflix: $0 (My roommate is on her family plan.)
MetroCard: $150 reimbursed by work, but I haven't refilled in a while because I work from home 95% of the time.
Insurance: $200
Pet Insurance: $35
BarkBox: $30
Apple Storage: $0.99
Gym: $170 for an unlimited pass to a barre/spin/yoga studio

Additional Expenses
Costco: $30 yearly, shared with my roommate
CSA: $300 (Every six months, split with my roommate.)

Day One

6:45 a.m. — Up and at ‘em! I'm not usually a morning exerciser, but I'm trying to make the best of my monthly pass and have plans a couple of nights this week, so off I go to a 7:15 barre class and then to take my dog for a walk. I get two miles of walking in by the time that I often roll out of bed.

8:30 a.m. — I get started with work. It's been quiet the past couple of days, so I take care of a few projects and some reporting, then schedule some meetings for later in the week. As I'm scrolling through Insta, I notice a friend is having a hard time, so I message her and then send $15 to her Ko-fi account. $15

11:45 a.m. — I realize I forgot to eat, so I make a peanut butter and apple butter sandwich and strain my decaf cold brew so I have it for today and tomorrow. I had to stop drinking regular coffee because it was making me jittery, so this is as close as I get to real coffee these days.

2:30 p.m. — I don't really have anything else to do, so I scroll some more, contribute to my mom's birthday fundraiser to round it out to a nice even number, and then notice a dress that I favorited on Poshmark is on sale. I've been looking for something to wear for a friend's wedding that I'm officiating this fall, and I think this will be perfect. Right as I'm looking at it, my friend messages saying she approves, so there I go. $187.29

3:45 p.m. — Take the pup for a super quick walk before calling a Via to get to Nats Park. I'm going with my friend, G., to Nats Night Out. The tickets came with T-shirts, so I get there early to make sure we get them before they run out ($6.25). Turns out I didn't need to be there quite so early, but I don't mind. $6.25

5 p.m. — Dinnertime. I'd rather pay for good food than mediocre and incredibly expensive ballpark food, so we head over to a Southern-style restaurant near the park. My food philosophy is eat what makes you feel good, and mostly that is plant-based, but today what sounds best is a bacon cheeseburger. G. is great and covers dinner as a thank-you for me picking up the shirts and for letting him crash on my couch tonight. I'll also be helping him move next weekend, so I don't feel too bad about it. We head over to the stadium and wander around for a bit before grabbing an unlimited refill Coke for us to share for the night. $11.25

7:45 p.m. — Oof. We're a couple of innings in and down by five. It's not looking good, but we've been chatting with the folks in our section and I miiiiiight have spiked the Coke, so it's all good.

10:35 p.m. — Bottom of the seventh and the Nats are ahead! But we also have to Metro back to G.'s car and then drive home, so we say bye to our new baseball friends and head out. I set up the couch for G. and then jump in bed myself.

Daily Total: $219.79

Day Two

6:30 a.m. — I didn't sleep very well, so I hop up and say good morning and check on what time G. is heading out, then try to get a little bit more sleep before starting work.

8:10 a.m. — After a quick walk with the pup, I log in to work. I take care of urgent emails and get my one project that's due today out, but then lose some steam and end up catching up on the latest episode of The Bachelorette. My job was originally only two days remote a week, but it's shifted recently so I only have to go into the office occasionally. This has its upsides for sure, but I struggle a bit with focusing as well at home. Luckily my job is 85% very short deadlines, so I never get too far behind.

1:45 p.m. — I realize that besides the pickle I ate a few hours ago and a handful of crackers, I haven't had any food today. I chop up the last of the bok choy in the fridge and make a quick salad, decide to finish off the last bottle of root beer that I bought this weekend with a root beer float, and then try to dig back into work.

5:30 p.m. — A quick walk and change before heading to the gym for a spin class, followed up with yoga. I got both my feet off the ground in crow for the first time ever! (I average about 20 classes a month, so the cost per class is about $8.50.)

8:30 p.m. — A “friend” texts to see if I want to hang out and rewatch some more West Wing tonight. I'm still a little tired from my late night last night, so I say tomorrow instead. I get home from spin and don't know what I want to eat, but I end up making a delicious rice-and-beans bowl that hits the spot. I have a little nightcap of lemon elderflower soda with vodka and then get ready for bed.

Daily Total: $0

Day Three

8:15 a.m. — I didn't sleep very well, so I put off getting up until the last minute. I take the pup for a quick potty break, then log in to work.

2:30 p.m. — So many fires to put out today. I'm overwhelmed and haven't eaten, so I chop up some veggies, toss them in the oven, and have some of the decaf cold brew that I prepped. I should probably find something else, but that's too much thinking for me right now. I play in the backyard with the pup for a few minutes to give us both a break, then register for a barre class tonight and update my TaskRabbit availability. I worked a lot last weekend, which is great because it will cover most of my upcoming 30th birthday trip to Chicago, but it means that this week has felt longer than usual because I didn't have a day to rest and recover. I also ogle the jumpsuit from Fleabag season two, episode one, but I legitimately have no place to wear it and it's 95% polyester, which I try to avoid.

4:45 p.m. — Another walk with the pup, then off to barre!

7 p.m. — I meet up with a friend who is leaving the city soon at my favorite Ethiopian place. Ethiopian food should be a must on everyone's D.C. bucket list. By the end, I'm totally stuffed and can't eat anymore, so the owner packs up what's left for me along with a little extra. $24

8:30 p.m. — I catch a Via over to watch West Wing. After a couple of episodes, my friend drives me home. We chat a little bit about my work situation, but I'm tired and a little grumpy, so I'm not super interested in having a conversation about it. $5.65

Daily Total: $29.65

Day Four

6:30 a.m. — Ugh. I have to go into the office today, so I'm up early, but I was awake three or four times during the night after having a hard time falling asleep. Normally I turn on a true-crime podcast and am out quickly, but the episode of Southern Fried True Crime I turned on was especially horrific and it definitely did not help me fall asleep.

7:40 a.m. — After ironing my dress, throwing everything in my bag, and walking the pup, I'm finally on my way to work. I catch a bus, get on the Metro (right as the train is pulling away — a good omen for the day!), and manage to snag a little nap without even missing my stop.

2 p.m. — I leave to run an errand for work and finish out the day at home. I had a bagel and the cold brew I packed around 10, but don't have time to eat again until 3:45, when I scarf down my leftovers from last night. I start listening to Bear Brook on my way home and, holy cow...there are some terrible people in the world. I pick up my three holds from the library on the way.

5 p.m. — Done at last! I'm supposed to meet a friend coming in for the weekend at 5:15, but his bus is delayed until 9, so I take a nap before walking over to meet him at the station.

9:30 p.m. — We head over to U Street to meet up with another friend who has clearly been having more fun than we have. He gets us a round of drinks, and we hang out at a bar for a while before going to get them a jumbo slice. Both guys I've met up with are from NYC and have strong feelings about D.C. pizza. We hang out in the area for a while, but around 11:30 I decide it's time to call it quits and make sure they've called an Uber before I walk home.

Daily Total: $0

Day Five

8:30 a.m. — Finally! A day without an alarm. I get up around 8:30 to take the pup out and then crawl back into bed for a while longer.

12:30 p.m. — I check in with my friends who want to go see the D.C. sights. Rather than getting ready to go meet them right away, I putter around until 2-ish before calling a Via to the mall, and then we walk down to the Wharf. $5.35

2:30 p.m. — We stop by District Donuts and each get one doughnut (one of the guys pays), and then we wait in line for seafood at Captain White's. I get a crab cake with sides of hush puppies and mac 'n' cheese for $17.60, and then head toward Pride. $17.60

4:45 p.m. — Somehow I end up on the opposite side of the parade route from the group, so it takes me like 45 minutes to go around the start of the parade route, and I stop at CVS to grab a couple of Gatorades on the way ($3.71). I don't love crowds, but I get a little emotional seeing everyone out and thinking about how much progress has been made, but also about how much is left to be made and how much harder it's gotten to continue making progress in the current political climate. $3.71

6 p.m. — I have a reservation at 6 at Supra, which is one of my favorite places to take people who are visiting the city. I ate a lot of Georgian food when I was working abroad with one of the guys from New York, so we know exactly what we want — adjaruli khachapuri and potato and cheese khinkali, plus a drink for each of us. I have a $50 gift certificate, so we only have to pay $3 plus a tip. My friend is also taking advantage of the legal weed situation in D.C. and orders some to be delivered to my place, then Venmos me the money to pay for it. He heads back to where he's staying to freshen up, and I walk home to take the pup out and take a quick shower after all that walking around. $10

8:30 p.m. — After I meet the delivery guy, there are shots on my block, and by the time my friends show up, the police have the street blocked off to cars. Never a dull moment! (Not to be flippant, but it's a thing that happens not irregularly in my neighborhood, and no one was seriously hurt this time.) We have a couple of rounds of Moscow Mules and some edibles before leaving for jumbo slices ($10) and to meet up with another friend. The lines everywhere are unsurprisingly outrageous, so we end up walking back to my place and hanging out for another few hours. $10

Daily Total: $46.66

Day Six

12 p.m. — Damn. I guess I needed more sleep? I can't remember the last time I slept that well or that late. I take the pup for a walk and then check in to see what my friends' plan is before they leave. We decide on Ethiopian food (I've been evangelizing about it all weekend) and meet at the restaurant. We split a vegan seven-dish sampler and tilapia tibs between the four of us. I put it on my debit card, and they Venmo or give me cash for their shares. No one was super hungry, so there are plenty of leftovers for me to take home. $15

4:30 p.m. — Two of the guys have earlier buses, so they go to the station, and the one who has a later bus and I walk to Jeni's for some excellent ice cream. I get a kid's scoop of a super chocolatey flavor in a waffle cone. SO GOOD. $7.33

5:55 p.m. — At home, trying to decide what to do for the rest of the day. My roommate and I decide that mango sorbet and chick flicks are on the agenda, so we head to Trader Joe's and end up doing a great job only getting real groceries and avoiding unnecessary snacks, except for the planned mango sorbet. She pays and then puts my share on Splitwise (nectarines, a couple of frozen gnocchi meals, Greek yogurt, veggie hotdogs and buns, avocados, strawberries, almond milk, seaweed snacks, rice, blueberries, watermelon, lemon elderflower soda). I text our friend who lives on the next block, and she comes over to watch Sleepless in Seattle with us, which is a pretty perfect way to spend a Sunday night, especially after such a busy weekend. $38.36

Daily Total: $60.69

Day Seven

7:45 a.m. — Happy Monday? I wake up without an alarm and take the pup for a very soggy walk, then settle in to work for the day. It isn't too busy, but my boss calls to give me some updates after our team meeting on Friday, and that gets my head spinning a bit. There's been a lot of change in the company lately, and while it's necessary, it has still been difficult.

12:30 p.m. — Lunch break! More Ethiopian leftovers. Try as I might, things never turn out exactly right when I make them at home, but I'm happy to support the family-owned restaurant that I go to. I just counted, and I've legit taken at least 15 people there, so I'm doing my part to keep them in business.

2:30 p.m. — Work is slow enough that I have time to try and get some of the slobber marks off of my couch. I spend half an hour rubbing a vinegar-dish-soap-water concoction on the worst parts. I will never again own a light-colored couch — this one is a shade of bright blue, but it shows everything, which isn't great with how much time my pup spends chewing his toys on it.

4:45 p.m. — Done with work, and I lie down while my phone is charging and end up sleeping for an hour and some change. Oops. I'm taking that as a sign that I still need rest after all the activity this weekend and decide to not try and make it to the gym today, but register for spin and barre classes back to back tomorrow instead. Another soggy walk with the pup, and when I get back the dress that I ordered from Poshmark is here. I try it on and think it'll work perfectly once I get it hemmed.

6:30 p.m. — I make up some Trader Joe's gnocchi with a side of watermelon for dinner and settle in to watch Jane the Virgin with my roommate. I remember that we'd talked about getting tickets to see Hari Kondabolu's show this weekend, so I double-check that she's still interested and get the tickets, then add hers to our running Splitwise balance. $25.50

8:30 p.m. — Still watching Jane the Virgin, but remember that TaskRabbit has been reminding me to update my payment information, so I try to go set up another checking account so that it'll stay separate and can go directly into my currently nonexistent emergency fund. I've spent so much of the past few years being broke and underemployed that I haven't been able to save anything, but now I'm actually at the point where I still have money in my bank account by the time my next paycheck hits and feel the need to get my shit together more. I hit a bump with the checking account, but spend a while reading posts in the Money Diaries FB group and sign up for an Ellevest account with a scheduled initial deposit for after my next paycheck hits. It's a step in the right direction, even if I still need to do a lot of reading and research.

11:20 p.m. — Time for puppy snugs.

Daily Total: $25.50

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